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[–] Eldritch@piefed.world 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Black goes with everything. But as @Sergio@piefed.social mentioned there's usually a bit more to it. Solid black is still boring. Functional but boring. Traditionally I'd say we're a bit more two tone. Black is often the base. But you'll generally see accents or a pop of color in there. Blood red crimsons, deep royal purples, shades of green and pumpkin orange are very common. Even if its just laces or a few tchotchkes here and there.

An there is a newer sub culture now literally called pastel goth heh. Not to mention those that glow in the dark.

[–] Sergio@piefed.social 23 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Funny you should ask that, I was just trawling around looking for memes to post on !gothindustrial@lemmy.world and came across this classic image:

It's from like 2007 but still got a lot of truth. See here for a breakdown of the various "stereotypes" of goth types by the same artist, many of which do not involve monochrome: https://www.deviantart.com/trellia/gallery/25271332/goth-stereo-types

If you check out pics from last summer's Wave Gotik Treffen, you'll notice that yeah, black is the baseline but it's not exclusive: https://piefed.social/post/883617

As for your question "why?" idk but wikipedia says:

The anchor that holds all elements of dark culture together can be viewed as the color black with all its associated symbolism. It is seen as an expression of seriousness, darkness and mysticism, but also of hopelessness and emptiness, melancholy, as well as its association with mourning and death.[2][6]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dark_culture

But a lot of tradgoths will say you don't have to dress or act any certain way to be "goth", you just gotta enjoy the music. idk tho, I'm more into industrial!

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 12 hours ago

Lol for cyber goth

[–] sem@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 22 hours ago

How do scene kids relate to this image? Descend from emo?

[–] Eldritch@piefed.world 3 points 1 day ago

Yup, the original look was individual expression and rebellion. Treating it as a uniform or mandatory style is antithetical. Dress as black as your soul, or just wear T-shirt and jeans. It shouldn't impact your cred. And if it does then your trying to join an adjacent clique. Or someone just aping the style above all else.

[–] Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

This is a great answer. I appreciate you taking the time to explain clearly, link references and fish up the image. This is something I really knew nothing about and am legit amazed. Thank you so much!

(Assuming you are/were a goth) May I ask what makes darkness really appealing to you? I mean I guess we all enjoy some darkness and I've had my dark times so I can understand a bit but umm... Could be wrong but I feel like darkness speaks to those who have a lot of anger or sadness somewhere. Does that make sense?

I also have the preconceived notion that goth culture has to do with rebellion / reappropriation of ostracism / exile / Thanos aka desire for death / ~~Demon worship?~~ and similar drives. Does this sound right to you? How would you put it?

Just trying to understand how the world looks like for a goth.

[–] Sergio@piefed.social 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

"goth" means different things to different people. sorry, I'd write more but I'm comin down with a cold or something.

Just trying to understand how the world looks like for a goth.

ok how about this:

[–] Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That actually helps a lot. thanks and hope you get better soon.

[–] Sergio@piefed.social 2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

i feel a bit exposed now, but interesting replies. thanks.

[–] Sergio@piefed.social 2 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

oops sorry, I removed your username from there. for what it's worth, !gothindustrial@lemmy.world has a smaller audience than !asklemmy@lemmy.world.

[–] Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago

Yeah I noticed and appreciate it very much!

[–] toomanypancakes@piefed.world 32 points 2 days ago (1 children)

There's always pastel goths

[–] Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 21 points 2 days ago (2 children)

bro doesn't even know about bubblegum goths, lmao

[–] caseyweederman@lemmy.ca 10 points 1 day ago (2 children)
[–] Eldritch@piefed.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Or high-visi goth. That narrow selection of cybergoths plastered with retro reflectors.

[–] caseyweederman@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

THIS NINJA
IS SNEAKING

[–] Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Now you're just fucking with me

[–] caseyweederman@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 day ago

I am but also those are both real things

[–] Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

There's no way that's a thing

[–] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 16 points 2 days ago (10 children)

Let's not discard my Cybergoth phase. I had plenty of colours, as long as they were neon

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[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 13 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

Joke comments aside, just because we use black a lot doesn't mean we don't use other colors. A fashionable goth can style just about anything.

Just uhh don't look in my closet, behind the skeletons

[–] lime@feddit.nl 2 points 8 hours ago

Yes! I love to incorporate all kinds of colors and patterns in my outfits while maintaining a distinctly “alt” style, and to see others do the same. I’m half-considering posting a few looks if I find the right community but think the desire for anonymity won’t let me.

Having fun with your style and enjoying the music and your community/events is way more important than fitting in with a certain aesthetic.

[–] Eldritch@piefed.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Blue is one of the harder colors. Blood reds, royal purples, toxic greens, pumpkin oranges no sweat. But blue seems a bit less common as a heavy accent color.

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

One of NYC's most prominent goth DJs is all blue. Dude's a bit of an asshole though

[–] Eldritch@piefed.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Heh, bet if I asked Bronxelf she'd probably know his name. One of these years I do need to get up there for MOC or one of the other events she booths.

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

He runs Stimulate. Not that hard to find tbh

[–] Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

Umm... What are you... nvm.

Also, are we not going to address your username being in gothic font? (don't curse me pls)

That's because they peaked in the first couple of centuries AD, color wasn't invented until way later

With a splash of pink/red/purple.

[–] xia@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's similar to the weeping angels, but they lose their color (rather than mobility) when observed.

[–] Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I like how you think.

[–] urheber@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Stop theres often red involved!

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[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

Colors distract from the suffering.

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