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He either says "fake news", when the news comes up, that Trump is not racist, that Trump is racist but he doesn't care because he hates the Arabs and "illegal" Latinos too, and thinks that it was people like Renee Good's fault for getting shot. Not only that, but he constantly misgenders me even when I'm genderfluid and use he/;him sometimes too and thinks transgender and nonbinary people don't exist. Just wanted to share that.

Yet I'm still kind of attached to him...

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[–] 6nk06@sh.itjust.works 37 points 1 day ago

I'm older than you I guess. Don't waste your time with him because it's a waste of time.

[–] MehBlah@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago

I was attached to my parents despite the horrible things they did and said. One day I discovered my mother was abusing my son the same way she had abused me and that was it. Some of us have bad people as parents and you should not honor them. That lie was started by the victimizers to make their victims look bad.

[–] CaptDust@sh.itjust.works 17 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Propaganda is wild. My FIL is deep in it, and he's a guy who I thought understood politics and history. Dude's watched enough documentaries on nazi germany but can't see it happening right in front of his face. He also dismisses any evidence of wrongdoing with a handwave and saying "bullshit". Or throws a whataboutism with Biden doing the worse - generally some evidence lacking conspiracy theory. He used to only have dailypatriotmail.com rag type "sources", but now he likes to cite official gov sources - shit published by DHS or RFK or whatever.

I've given up talking to him about it and my MIL has shut down all political discussion when we're together. I can't reason him out of a position, and even if he acknowledges he was wrong, tiktak or fb memes will just drag him right back there shortly after we leave.

All this say, I'm sorry you're dealing with this - unfortunately I don't have a better solution than cutting contact. I hope things improve, but I'm not holding my breath.

Fascists have no friends or family

I'd tell him he's sadly a beast of propaganda with no original thought, living in and defending the actions of a receding, restructuring evil empire that has the blood of countless innocents, foreign and local, on their hands. And that his soul is on the line for it, maybe (certainly on the line, I meant it's maybe a good idea to tell him that, maybe not, maybe it wouldn't come out of you either because you don't believe in God's judgment). And that you're telling him all of this because you care about him, and you care about your relationship.

[–] AntiBullyRanger@ani.social 7 points 1 day ago

😭🫂 hope your estrangement goes smoother.🫂

[–] atro_city@fedia.io 6 points 1 day ago

If only your father could apply the same level of criticism to his news sources as he does with other news sources.

[–] Blue_Morpho@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

Have you asked him, "Who's Bubba?"

You should wear a T shirt that says that in front of him all the time.

[–] deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

"It hurts me how hateful you are dad, I love you, but I can't be near you"

[–] Muckle@aussie.zone 0 points 1 day ago

I don't see the problem here. In the real world you just come across people you disagree with politically. You can't agree with everyone on everything. You just have to learn to defend your beliefs.