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"You will always be female" - my uncle (feddit.org)

submitted 2 weeks ago by SchwarzeHexe@feddit.org to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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So, yeah, my uncle's kind of an ass. I am bigender or genderfluid or something and I use masculine and feminine pronouns, names, and genders interchangeably. However, I tried to come out to my uncle and he said I would always be a "female", nothing could change it, and being trans was just a load of horseshit.

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[–] slothrop@lemmy.ca 22 points 2 weeks ago

bigots gonna bigot.

You can choose to not have an uncle who bigots.

[–] toomanypancakes@piefed.world 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Well, your uncle doesn't understand what trans people are, and he's always gonna be kind of an idiot it seems. He's apparently swallowed a load of horseshit himself. Try not to take it personally, though I know how hard that can be.

[–] radiouser@crazypeople.online 12 points 2 weeks ago

Never take critism from someone you wouldn't go to for advice.

[–] brightandshinyobject@lemmy.world 8 points 2 weeks ago

Congrats, I'm your new uncle bud. I had four nibblings, now I have 5.

[–] I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world 8 points 2 weeks ago

Just tell him the truth: You're more of a man than him.

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago

Don’t forget to let him know he will always be a dipshit

[–] Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 weeks ago

If you need a new auntie, give me a shout. I'll probably forget your birthday just like I'm certain he does, but I'll never ever disrespect your gender identity.

[–] vivalapivo@lemmy.today 4 points 2 weeks ago

Being trans was just a load of horseshit.

As a straight cis man I can resonate with this. IDK, I don't think I know how a person could possibly know whether they are this or that. I certainly can't. But what I know for certain is that it takes a ton of bravery to ask others to treat you in a certain way. You also should have enough bravery to cut them off if they disagree.

[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago

Tell him he will always be a fuck face, then cut contact.

[–] Zozano@aussie.zone 0 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

By saying you will always be female, he's distinguishing between biology and culture.

By explicitly stating "female" and not "woman", he's accidentally validated you.