Uhh...when?
44, still haven't seen it happen for me.
this post was submitted on 20 Dec 2025
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Yeah...I don't agree with the sentiment of the OP necessarily. What gets me through shit though is knowing not the meaningless and sometimes inaccurate phrase of "it always gets better", but rather that "change is inevitable". Really, the only certainty in life is change. Sometimes it's change for the better, and sometimes it's change for the worse. But things do change...whether we do want them to or whether we don't. It's always that chance of the next change being a bit more positive that keeps me going in life.
that is because this meaningless platitude is supposed to statistically be applicable to most people, it does not actually guarantee squat.
In other words, hope and pray you're in the majority.
I'm not OP but I'm learning there's a buttload of perspective and self-talk that can ruin the most magical existence
Objectively, I'm doing OK or great but ive been sabotaging my thinking for so long it's hard to recognise
Just one more "once-in-a-lifetime" financial crash
True, death awaits us all
Condesending fantasy nonsense
Any day now...
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a few decades later...
Not a single positive comment?
I used to be depressed, somehow pushed through. There is hope ppl.
Therapy is a real solution. Talk about it, don't bottle up your feelings.
Do something, anything is better than nothing. Do the dishes, make the bed!
It's kind of a neutral thing to say be honest. This advice is usually good to give young people or people who are legitimately in a situation where it will get better like grief of a recent loss that you have mutually experienced but to a lot of people this comes across as minimizing their pain, offering an ultimately empty platitude that doesn't co-relate to their situation or as naive because sometimes things really won't get better. Sometimes you really need to find a way to survive knowing you do so under permanent duress and that requires support rather than generic advice to grit your teeth.
Therapy is a great thing to recommend but anecdotes of how one person got through depressive episodes by sheer force of will and by doing something that can seem a monumental task depending on circumstances can actually make someone feel worse.
Not saying you should feel bad here. This is a very common thing people say particularly due to mental health campaigns targeted at teens but if you are looking for overwhelming positive feedback this might not be the way.
You are right, this was 30 years ago for me. I do remember the absolute feeling of helplessness, hearing someone else's positive experience is less than helpful. But I stand by my advice to communicate, I had no idea at the time just that one thing can turn it around
...alternatively, if life hasn't been good to you so far - which, given your present circumstances, seems more likely - consider yourself lucky that it won't be troubling you much longer.