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Say if someone came up to you and asked "If you were a boy/girl what would your name be?" could you answer them without needing think or is that not something most people give a thought to?

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[–] letsgo2themall@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

My name can be used for both. Lucky me!

[–] Denjin@feddit.uk 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

My name works equally well for either gender, so yes.

[–] j4k3@piefed.world 3 points 3 days ago

I could come up with something contextual on the fly, but it is not a thing I think about. I do not feel a need to navigate or explore my sexual dogma, not that there is anything wrong with doing so. I guess I am lucky to have grown up with experiences that helped me learn what I do and do not find arousing. I think I am open to new experiences, but I generally follow my curiosity wherever it leads and do not care how anyone else feels about that. I'm fiercely loyal, so not in that way.

[–] noxypaws@pawb.social 1 points 2 days ago

Nope, but I go by my furry name most places and that's rather gender neutral.

[–] callyral@pawb.social 1 points 3 days ago

Since I was named after my dad I suppose I would've been named after my mom or another family member.

And uh, I guess "Cally" is kind of gender neutral-ish but it is my main online username so it'd be weird to use it somewhere else. Also I'm unsure how to pronounce it in portuguese, which is my native language.

[–] Maestro@fedia.io 2 points 3 days ago

I know what my parents wanted to call me if I was a girl. It's a horrible tacky name so I'm glad I turned out a boy!

[–] gnu@lemmy.zip 1 points 3 days ago

No, I'd need to think about it. I don't have a pre-chosen opposite gendered name (it's not something I've thought I needed to consider) and my name is not one that can be easily adapted so the easy option is out.

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 1 points 3 days ago

My name is already androgenous.

[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

I don't even like my own name for various reasons but I couldn't make a different choice for my own gender even if I wanted to.

I would end up depressively renaming myself something like Rat Bastard McFuckwit

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[–] juliebean@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 days ago

if i was a guy, i most likely would've just keep the name they gave me as a baby. personally, i gave a fair bit of thought to choosing my name, there wasn't some natural, percect choice that just fell into my brain out of the aether, but ymmv

[–] Hossenfeffer@feddit.uk 1 points 3 days ago

Mr name is Scrofula, so I guess Scrofulina might work out ok?

[–] vortexal@sopuli.xyz 1 points 3 days ago

I'm not sure about everyone but I do know that I have thought about this before. While I have no plans on ever becoming trans, I have thought about using the name Vivian or just Vivi. It's not related to my real name but I for some reason just kind gravitated towards it.

I think I remember first using it as my character's name in some scenarios in AI Dungeon, and I still use it when I need a name for a female character.

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 days ago

Emely, Liv, Lucy, Alina are names i really like and would pick from

[–] Dalacos@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I think the female versions of my name sound terrible, so, no on that front.

In general not a thought I've had aside from that. I've always felt comfortable with my gender/sexual orientation.

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 1 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I don't know a lot of trans people.

Do they usually pick the opposite-gender-version of their birth name? Seems like many do not.

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[–] copymyjalopy@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 days ago

Amanda.

But I did have to think for a bit.

[–] Klear@quokk.au 1 points 3 days ago

My name doesn't have a female version, but I know the name picked for me if I was a girl.

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 1 points 3 days ago

No, I've never thought about this in any meaningful way and I couldn't answer without significant consideration.

[–] Mr_Fish@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

I'm presuming that this is me choosing a name for myself, not what would my name be if I was born a girl.

My name does have a feminine version (Joseph => Josephine), but I'm not really a fan of gender swap versions of names, so it wouldn't be that. I'd probably go for something biblical like Deborah or Esther.

[–] FaceDeer@fedia.io 1 points 3 days ago

I'd have to stop and think because I've used two variations of a feminine version of my name in previous circumstances where this has come up and I don't know which i prefer.

[–] Gorilladrums@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago
[–] Beacon@fedia.io 1 points 3 days ago

Never crossed my mind. And now that I'm trying to think about it all the names i try out sound wrong because i so strongly associate myself with my given name. Even other names of my same gender don't feel like they're me.

[–] Artisian@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

I do have a favorite for video game characters of the other gender. But I didn't pick it until quite late in life, and I'm not sure it's a good name for gender-bent me irl.

Parents had a name for a AFAB child iirc; though I've forgotten it.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 days ago

I mean I have indecisiveness issues.

I was supposed to pick an English name so its easier to pronounce than my real name, but kinda procrastinated and didn't feel confortable actually using a "foreign" name when I didn't even speak the language at the time.

So like... hypothetically, if I were trans, not only would I be so afraid of picking and using another name, I would probably just be too scared to actually transition and keep hiding it in my head forever, I never gave any thought to such hypotheical names.

Although I wonder, if I was AFAB, what name would my parents give me? Kinda wanna ask them for fun.

[–] gnomesaiyan@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Loaded question. Who are you asking?

[–] quinceyBones@lemmy.zip 3 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I'm asking everyone.

I've known the answer to this question since well from as early as I can remember. I was curious if this is something other people think about often/ever.

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[–] theywilleatthestars@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

You mean if I was assigned a different gender at birth or if I realized something about myself?

[–] quinceyBones@lemmy.zip 1 points 3 days ago

Either, any cause?

[–] _cryptagion@anarchist.nexus 0 points 3 days ago

I would just use the name I use now. There’s not some name police that says you can’t be a girl named Steve. Do what you want and fuck everybody else.

[–] Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 0 points 3 days ago

If you were a boy/girl what would your name be?" could you answer them without needing think

Yes, I could.

My name is part of my identity. My gender, too. So if this were different, then I would not be I. It makes no sense to think about "my" name then, because it would be the name of somebody else then.

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