Me as a young kid:
I feel sad and I don't know why.
My mom:
You're just tired, you don't have a reason to be sad.
this post was submitted on 01 Dec 2025
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Start with finding a therapist, theyll be able to guide you. Your support doesnt need to related to you either. A trusted friend to talk about what youre feeling can be the pressure release valve to get through another week
It's interesting to me some of the relationships people have with their parents. I love my mom, but I don't think I could ever tell her I was struggling. I never really have I don't think.
Recently my job threatened to fire me, my friend abandoned me, and then I had to go on FMLA for mental health reasons as a result. Never told her a word.
Idk maybe I overestimated my mom, she literally just said some ableist shit to me.
I have depression, not down syndrome, mom. Wtf.
I hate my life.
I'm sorry, dude. :( Have you been able to get any sort of treatment for it at all?
I just wanted to mention that I've seen your posts and you always seem to be asking insightful questions and creating interesting discussion. Thanks for your contributions!
Speaking as a parent who understands all too well about my kids’ depression, it might not even help.
“Ok, yes, life sucks, nothing matters, nothing is worth doing, and nobody cares. This is normal it’s just like that for some people. Now get your ass out of bed and [do your homework | get that resume written | go to work]”
This is my refrain for the past 10+ years. My kids do not enjoy hearing it, I do not enjoy saying it, and none of us has the faintest clue what to do that’s better than this.
You could try going for a walk outside in the sun and/or rain when your mom is bugging you too much with her not-understanding. That doesn’t get the homework done or the resume written or whatever but it can be a real mood lifter even for people who have heard the advice enough times already to be frustrated by it.
Good luck out there kid, it’s a hard world but somehow you can do it.