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[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 31 points 1 week ago (1 children)

its oki to be little somtime ~

no need to be "adult" all the time. thats a terrible job, that adulting ur doing. not that ur bad at it, but the peeps on the job dont treat u right.

u deserve to be smol. and if u dont wana be - eh, then dont be, go play some shootergame or whatever kids thesw days do...

[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 week ago

i often want to be a lil mouse in a lil mouse hole and just sit and watch, unseen and smol but big comf

[–] oxysis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 1 week ago (2 children)
[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 week ago

A period of life where one learns how to deal with vulnerability.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

That's where you work hard for the genitors until you're 18 years?

[–] Battle_Masker@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Seeing stuff like this makes me think more and more about if I was traumatized as a child, and by what. Well besides the chronic illness that almost killed me

[–] SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 week ago

I'm frequently recommending "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker for this. I always knew I had an unusual childhood but didn't think my parents were abusive, just quirky. As an adult, I started seeing a therapist for anxiety. They strongly recommended this book after our first real session. Surprise: parental abuse so pervasive that I thought it was normal!

I've had a few friends and acquaintances give it a read and they knew within the first few chapters if it was right for them or not.

[–] saltnotsugar@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago

There are many Lisa Frank trapper keepers in this world Bilbo, and NONE of them should be taken lightly.

[–] SirSamuel@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I will forever associate this picture with u/FelixLaVulpe and, more specifically, the post Of Hands and Hookers. This post stars Barnabus Phalange and his retinue of gay prostitutes (known as the Twink Squad) as they ruin both the DM's plans and the gritty dark tone of the entire campaign as a whole. Alternatively known as how Gay Gandalf and the YMCA overthrew a vampiric cult and took over the city

[–] Secret_Music@piefed.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Haha I must've missed this but it sounds hilarious.

[–] SirSamuel@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Oh every post they made in dndgreentext was pure entertainment. I don't think they've posted any new stories there in the last few years, but the profile is still active otherwise. Of course they could just be making things up, but it's entertaining either way.

[–] bownage@beehaw.org 3 points 1 week ago

Me playing my inner child as a D&D character