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I mean working somewhere like Qualcomm or Microsoft when you care about FOSS, democracy, and the public commons, or a weapons manufacturer for a military that invades other countries and kills innocent people in their homes.

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[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 141 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

By doing the minimum required to not get fired.

This is the way

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[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 100 points 4 weeks ago

Ability to afford food and rent is a pretty big incentive.

[–] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 78 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I have nothing. I need a paycheck. Finding a job in America is Hell.

[–] motor_spirit@lemmy.world 8 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

ice applicants have entered the chat

[–] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 8 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

God help me if it comes to that. Nobody is helping me and I'm getting desperate.

[–] skulblaka@sh.itjust.works 10 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Take the $50k signing bonus and use it to fuck off to Belize or somewhere

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[–] FenderStratocaster@lemmy.world 47 points 4 weeks ago (15 children)

I envy the folks here who can lay their morals out on the table without having to sacrifice a roof or food on the table. Must be nice.

[–] Darkassassin07@lemmy.ca 19 points 4 weeks ago

It's never an easy decision to make and often you simply don't have the resources to make it immediately; but if the work you do is immoral/unethical, your goal should be to remove yourself as soon as reasonably possible.

That said; sometimes even the need to provide for one's self or family doesn't outweigh the horrible things we're asked to do. Where exactly that line is we're unlikely to agree on; but in those situations sacrifices must be made.

You always have a choice, and it's our choices that define us.

[–] naught101@lemmy.world 8 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I get the vibe that it's a lot easier if you're not in the US. I guess there are a few worse countries as well..

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[–] Vandals_handle@lemmy.world 41 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Found a new job and took a 16% pay cut to escape an unethical situation. Last day in old job was today.

[–] IamtheMorgz@lemmy.world 10 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Congratulations! I hope your new job is rewarding and long lasting!

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[–] PhilipTheBucket@piefed.social 37 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)
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[–] Darkassassin07@lemmy.ca 36 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

You don't. Stand up for your ethics and morals and leave.

One of the best paying jobs I ever had, directly asked me to perform work that would have have damaged a customers home. When I layed out exactly how and why this was wrong and why I wouldn't do it, they insisted I do as I was told or be fired.

I walked off the site and never looked back.

I ran into that old boss a while later and he told me he later realized I was right, but insisted I still should have done as I was told because he was above me and had given me direct instructions...

Sometimes you just can't work with people and have to move on.

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[–] MyDarkestTimeline01@ani.social 32 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

As an adult the very first thing we try to feed ourselves are our morals and principles. And once we find out that they don't fill your stomach? Well. You'd be surprised what you'll do to not starve.

[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 10 points 4 weeks ago

name checks out

[–] IamtheMorgz@lemmy.world 23 points 4 weeks ago

After college I worked a project management job for a while before going to grad school. I didn't find it morally questionable, but I definitely found myself feeling like I was just working to make some rich guy richer. It didn't help that the rich guy(s) (the owner and his son in law who was out CEO) worked in the same building. So I went back to school. Got my master's. Ended up doing some contract work for the same company afterwards. Never felt more stuck in my life. Hated it. Did more grad school and when the contract work dried up I got asked to come work for another company but I still hated the bs corporate vibe, so instead I went from billing $80/hr to making $15/hr as a 911 dispatcher. Graduated and stayed in that field. I'm an emergency management professional now and while it's not a lucrative field (thankfully I don't want kids) I get a lot of satisfaction out of the work and I feel like my job matters.

Long story short, you choose what to prioritize in life. For some people making sure you/your family is well cared for will matter more than what you're doing or who you're doing it for. For others, you'll take a pay cut to feel like the work itself matters or that you're making a positive impact. Everyone has to balance what's important to them.

OP, If morally aligning with your job matters to you, you'll ultimately land somewhere you can stomach at least, because you won't stop trying until you get there. Don't blame yourself for having to do other work along the way to keep yourself fed and able to enjoy the ride there.

[–] Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.world 22 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

I've never known any other way. Companies by definition exist to make profits, not to improve the lives of thier customers. Any business that truely has the interest of thier customers first doesn't last long.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 9 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (3 children)

They do exist to make profits but there is such a thing as returning customers, and that can be very profitable it you dont turn your product into shit.

Thinkpads had such amazing reputation for a long time because they lasted so long and could be repaired. Then they stopped caring about quality and now its just a generic brand that breaks as much or more as the other brands.

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[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

Either you unionize, you leave, or your ethics aren't worth shit.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 8 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Sometimes you don't wanna be homeless and starving.

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[–] DioramaOfShit@lemmy.world 19 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Just a guess but I think it has something to do with people not wanting to be homeless

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[–] PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca 17 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

There is no ethical consumption under capitalism type shit.
There are no companies where I agree with their ethics, but I gotta work. From there it's just a matter of shades of gray, rather than a dichotomy; there is no clear line. You just gotta do the best you can. Make the best choices available to you.

[–] gndagreborn@lemmy.world 11 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

It really surprises me how preachy people can be. When you got a family of 4 to feed, that white collar job working in accounting at Chiquita seems really distant from their literal government toppling conquests of the south.

When responsibility is so plainly distributed in larges companies, individual accountability becomes almost invisible.

I have a lot of random thoughts on this, but they aren't all coherent. The system is so messed up, you could form an entire major studying just how fucked up capitalism is.

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[–] Bunbury@feddit.nl 17 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

The job allows me to spend a lot of time volunteering and doing good deeds on the side. I don’t think I could use the cheat code for just any company. My main problem is that I’m very anti-capitalist (don’t have a solution, just think we have proven thoroughly that this isn’t it). Getting a different job won’t fix my problem.

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[–] Ougie@lemmy.world 16 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

I like food and my basic needs covered.

But generally speaking, let's see what we've got: Military is obviously out. Working for governments? Mostly out except for education related posts and some other niche stuff here and there. Banking out. Energy companies: mostly out except niche ones into renewables. Big tech like Amazon Microsoft Apple Google etc is out of the question. Car companies out. Anything owned by billionaires, out. Any sector that contributes to global pollution like meat industry, fishing industry, logging, Monsanto, 3M, DuPont etc etc out! Any company that employs people under minimum wage, out. Surely I'm forgetting a lot of stuff, but even with this small list, what the fuck is left?

[–] IamtheMorgz@lemmy.world 22 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

As a government worker, I will say there's a lot more than just teaching that's morally filling work. A ton of government jobs are directly tied to keeping the public safe. Food inspectors, doctors, researchers, firefighters, even grant writers. It's not all cops and politicians.

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[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 15 points 4 weeks ago

I hated a lot of Verizon's policies, but I wasn't about to leave a job without another one (that paid as good) lined up.

I had mouths to feed, but I tried to do good by my customers.

[–] miked@piefed.social 15 points 4 weeks ago

I worked with someone that switched careers because his work did not align with his ethics.

He was an electrical engineer that worked with high-frequency circuits. Niche field back around 2000. He worked for a "defense" company working on missile systems.

He could not accept it morally and changed professions. I met him doing IT desk-side support at a large company.

I know he took a pay cut.

[–] DJKJuicy@sh.itjust.works 15 points 4 weeks ago

It's actually pretty easy to compartmentalize your job if you're not directly confronted with what the company actually does.

If you're an elevator maintenance technician working for a defense contractor, your job is the elevators, and you and your peers probably only deal with elevators, and the job probably pays pretty well. There's a layer of abstraction between you and the "bad" things that your company may do.

Also, getting to make an employment decision based on "is this company evil" isn't a luxury most people have until they've built some experience. Most entry level professionals are just happy to get a job.

[–] 30p87@feddit.org 14 points 4 weeks ago

Having a bash prompt with the $ replaced with a hammer and sickle sure feels weird in a Bank, but... I'm pretty much trapped. Either I somehow find anything else to survive, with an employer that's as understanding for my problems as my current one is, and then pay back study fees, or I have to keep up with it. At least it's only a few months of being there. And avoiding the usual suspects (bankers) helps with not getting triggered in the office. Or just doing homeoffice.

The larger plan: Somehow be stable with just hosting + maintaining stuff, and get to a medium to good standard with extra freelancing.

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 12 points 4 weeks ago

Not at all. You run burnout territory. Get out quick.

[–] Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 11 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Most people actually do it according to this procedure:

Be young

Start to think only at a later age.

[–] Droggelbecher@lemmy.world 16 points 4 weeks ago

In my experience, it's much more often:

  1. be young

  2. be very passionate about the ability to afford food and shelter

It's honestly weird how most of this thread acts like everyone can pick and choose their employment all the time. Most of us can't, at least not always.

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[–] A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.world 11 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

because morals are nice.

but being able to eat, and not be rained on and assaulted in your sleep is nicerer.

[–] twelvety@fedia.io 10 points 4 weeks ago

Needing to put food on your table is a good motivator.

Also - you might want to check something - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Microsoft_and_open_source Even allowing for the three Es, MS has employed a number of people who worked exclusively on FOSS projects.

[–] vatlark@lemmy.world 9 points 4 weeks ago

It's easy to turn a blind eye when things are going well in your personal life. It's the central theme of "They Thought They Were Free: The Germans 1933-45"

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 9 points 4 weeks ago

My day job is purely transactional. I used to enjoy working for this company but they've changed. Unfortunately my work permit is tied to them.

[–] mesamunefire@piefed.social 9 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I used to work for health insurance. I hated the job with a passion.

The way I dealt with it was simple. Each day I tried to push just a tiny bit in a good direction. And when that didn't work, every day I would put out a resume. Eventually I did get a job outside the industry and it was amazing.

Each day you have a bad day, put out a resume. Its a numbers game, eventually you get lucky.

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[–] EmilieEasie@lemmynsfw.com 9 points 4 weeks ago

i wouldn't judge someone for this. there just aren't a lot of options 😔

[–] olafurp@lemmy.world 8 points 4 weeks ago

By doing the absolute minimum or worse without getting fired. If you can get by as a -10x dev for Microsoft you're doing absolutely fantastic. I.e. sabotage.

You can also try to push for change, apply for other jobs.

The other alternative is to disassociate and sacrifice your morals or somehow justify to yourself.

Not going to tell you what to do, keeping a well paying job when your family depends on you is totally understandable.

[–] higgsboson@piefed.social 8 points 4 weeks ago

Money helps a surprising amount.

[–] AlecSadler@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Historically...I didn't. But I don't want to downplay the situation some people are in where they have bills to pay and need health insurance and such. I've been lucky to be able to just bail on something I don't like. It is a privilege.

I guess if I had to stay though, I'd do the bare minimum and scrape by. Making a game out of not being fired but producing very little.

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[–] nickiwest@lemmy.world 7 points 4 weeks ago

I did it for almost 10 years. Most of the work we did was fine, but some was utterly opposed to my personal values. I started making donations to my favorite charities (mostly Planned Parenthood and ACLU) every time I had a new work project that I felt was working against their goals.

When my husband and I were financially stable enough, I noped out of that job and found something that paid less but was affirming instead of soul-crushing.

[–] Psythik@lemmy.world 7 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

I don't. I always consider a company's policies before I hop on-board. If they don't have a solid DEI policy, for example, I'm not interested. Companies who don't embrace DEI tend to have toxic managers in my experience.

[–] Jumi@lemmy.world 7 points 4 weeks ago

I get another job obviously.

[–] kugel7c@feddit.org 7 points 4 weeks ago

Burnout my friend.

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