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[–] nutbutter@discuss.tchncs.de 42 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You’re such a good boy @nutbutter@discuss.tchncs.de! Do you band some headpats? Come here my love! pat pat pat. Let me also give you come ear scritches scratch scratch scratch. Heeeeeeeee hugs you tight you’re such a lovely booyyy! I which I could hold you forever 💖

[–] FGoo@sh.itjust.works 21 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] igilq@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Are you looking for real or is this a joke?

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Kinda. We aren’t gonna be able to meet up and actually cuddle, but can at least send cuddling animal pics to each other.

[–] igilq@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 month ago

Well, i do know such person

[–] ignotum@lemmy.world 16 points 1 month ago

Ehy would i want to kill my depression? it's my oldest friend!

[–] HasturInYellow@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago

Man I wish this were true. Love cuddling, but damn. Depression got hands.

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

i wan bt dun hav any frens rn,,,

[–] ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com 2 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Is it because of the way you type?

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 month ago

hey fella don’t be a typist

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago

don’t listen to them, cutie! the way you type is very interesting and unique! and as a bonus it filters out closed minded people like that they.

[–] erotador@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago

Get hugged lmao

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 month ago

how fem would the boy need to be, hypothetically?

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yes, i would very much like to be the little spoon, how did you know?!

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago
[–] Arkhive@piefed.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Me: 192cm rock climber transfemme. Broad shouldered, strong back and arms, will do pull ups in front of you.

Me: Hi honey, what do you need??

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

ROCK CLIMBER????? GIRL?????

IM IN LOVE!!!!!

let’s go camping together and cuddle in a hammock with a beautiful view!!! Mosquitos and the cold be damned!

[–] Arkhive@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Only problem is I grew up in a mosquito plagued land, so now they all avoid me out of respect for my time off at war and exclusively go after anyone else I’m with. I do have good reflexes though, so as long as you’re down with the odd slap to “kill a mosquito ;)” we should be just fine.

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Don’t threaten me with a good time!

Sis, honestly, you’re perfect!

I’m actually looking for someone like you irl: a sporty mommy that will make me work out and will go camping with me.

Someone will be very lucky when they find you! (Assuming you’re not aroace lmao)

[–] tekeous@beehaw.org 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I actually don’t know what I’m into more, a short queen who I could just put in my pocket, or a tall Amazon gf to help me reach the top shelf

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 month ago

I knooowwwww 😫😫😫😭

Maybe the poly people had it figured out the whole time

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

sorry just a small chubby hairy dude but i give good hugs i'm told