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why the transphobia(?) on reddit? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 day ago by classybattery@sh.itjust.works to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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i hate to use the term lightly just to throw it around and to complain about reddit, but of course, i need to get it off my chest. for those who haven't seen my posts, i'm transmasc and gay/bi. i'm part of the lgbtq+ community. there was a post i saw asking if it was transphobic, as a gay man, to not like trans men, and some responses just said it was his preference, while others said "yeah, because gay men don't date women" and the like.

like, i do understand the gay men who aren't sexually attracted to boobs or vagina, but like there's specific comments like these that give me the ick. "Your delusion is not going to erase my sexuality 🤷🏾‍♂️"

it reminds me that there's a saidit community called LGB drop the T.

now, i'm quite new to the gaybros communities on lemmy, but i wasn't once doubted as a man or called "pretending to be a man" for being trans, if i ever said i was.

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[–] lordkekz@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't think Lemmy is immune to transphobia but you might be seeing less of it because there are less people overall and those are more strongly clustered, since not all lemmy instances federate with each other.

Usually instances decide to defederate when they notice too much unacceptable content coming from another instance. Thus, if you are on a more inclusive instance, they are likely blocking the parts of lemmy that are heavily transphobic. This makes Lemmy a safer space (for their users) but probably also gives the illusion that all of Lemmy is this inclusive.

But hey, that's just a theory. I don't actually know it that's the reason.

[–] classybattery@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 day ago

thanks, that makes a lot of sense