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i don't know how to feel about my old ex (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 days ago by classybattery@sh.itjust.works to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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first off, i feel like i would be letting my emotions get the better of me if i said she wasn't a nice person.

back in 2022, i dated this girl alicja from poland. alicja has a childhood best friend, agnieszka. our relationship started off fine, alicja was very flirty, helped me whenever she could. she struggled a lot with mental health and i helped her.

here's the thing: if i wasn't immediately there at the moment, she would threaten to kill or harm herself. she also heard voices that weren't there some of the time.

if i didn't do exactly what she wanted, she would block me. at first, after our breakup, we were friends. then, she ghosted me and blocked me.

she happened to be friends with a friend of mine.

she then said she wanted to be friends with me, and ghosted and blocked me again. and she told me it was because she was autistic. whether that's true, i don't know, but yeah. agnieszka blocked me, too, unfriended me and all my friends, left all our group chats, etc.

what could be the reason for this behavior?

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[–] jhoff90@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago

She wants to feel some sort of control in her life.

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

When people show you who they are, believe them.

Doesn't really matter why she does these things - the only question is do you want this stuff in your life?

Frankly they did you a favor by blocking you.

[–] classybattery@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 days ago

thanks, she seemed toxic anyway :)

[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 4 points 2 days ago

I don’t get what’s confusing about this. That’s just how some people behave - and whether there’s a logical explanation or not, it’s most likely going to keep happening. People like this rarely change. Either cut her off or deal with it. Those are the options I see.