No.
In the words of Shirley Bennett: “kind people are kind”
If someone is unkind to anyone. They are unkind. It’s easy.
Sorry you’re getting mistreated. You deserve to be loved how you are.
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No.
In the words of Shirley Bennett: “kind people are kind”
If someone is unkind to anyone. They are unkind. It’s easy.
Sorry you’re getting mistreated. You deserve to be loved how you are.
Is it possible that she can act like this and still be a good and kind person despite hating people with problems and being a bit homophobic?
Her kindness is conditional. For people who match those conditions that "activate" kindness, they can't understand the problem because they don't see the other side of her, thus it must be "your fault" somehow.
I'll bet that she never shows her bad side when her supporters are around. If she actually does , and they are fine with it, then I advise you to distance yourself from all of these people.
I knew someone like this, the level of gas lighting was awful. It really messed with my head for years.
I’m sorry that happened :( I hate people like that
She called me a dog and asked me why I cared about her so much
It costs nothing to be kind to someone. She isn't s good person.
No. She is not a good person.
No this person is terrible and you should cut off contact if you can. Confide in a trusted friend/family member.
People don't always make sense in their actions, and you might be trying to spend more effort understanding her than she is worth. Many people only have shallow "relationships" or interactions with each other, so it's possible that people you know have not gotten to know her beyond social pleasantries.
Have you heard about Mother Theresa? How she was such a good and holy person because she dedicated herself to the poor and sick? That when she died, the was a huge movement around the world to have her become a saint? Well, the world knows now that she was cruel to all those people. And she was using her position to continue abusing people that she felt were lesser than her.
It's pretty clear from this post, and your other posts, that this lady is not safe for you to be around. Saying that you don't want to be around someone should be enough, and you do not have to explain to anyone why you do not like her. I hope you have people in your life that can help keep you safe
Why did this lady try to beat you up?
She just told me “fuck you, you should get tortured”
That's a terrible thing to say to anyone, for any reason. I'm sorry that happened to you.
Did they say that as soon as you arrived? Or had you been talking before that?
Also, what is your relationship to this person?
Friends with one of my friends
It's extremely important to learn to not internalize other people's problems based on how they treat you.