I drunkenly did this once, my two friends who were a couple at the time were arguing and one was absolutely in the wrong. It was NOT a good idea, I regretted it immediately and just left, then called and apologised to both if them.
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As an uber driver I frequently play judge/referee in couples’ arguments
I bet you have stories.
Never get involved in a couple’s argument
The person at fault will scapegoat you
Having said that you can look to polyamory for the emotional support threesome
One time I loved with my roommate... and his ex wife. It was sort of amicable (obviously), but sometimes the arguments weren't. I usually stayed out of it if possible, but sometimes not.
And sometimes when it was lower stakes I would just poke at them for fun.
It's nice to be reminded that malice is not a completely human trait.
Lol it kinda is.
I joined an argument of strangers once. It was a couple that was loudly arguing about how long it takes to get ready and blah blah blah. The lady was SCREAMING at this guy because he was annoyed they had been late for their reservation due to how long she took to get ready.
After about 10 minutes of them going back and forth there was a pause and since they were sitting right behind my table a comment just escaped my lips: "Sounds like he was ready on time though". I hadn't said it super loud but it wasn't exactly as whisper, but the lady heard me and she just LOST it.
When she turned to start yelling at our table she found all 4 of us were in agreement with her man and she was the one in the wrong and then when she got up to storm off she yelled "ITS RUDE TO LISTEN TO OTHER PEOPLES CONVERSATIONS" at our whole table. At that moment a guy at another table across the restaurant yelled "it's rude to have a loud argument that the whole restaurant has to listen to". That lady turned bright red and stormed off.
I do hope that guy got out of that relationship... She seemed like a real nightmare.
You never get invited to join a couple's argument? It's never fun and you should always decline.
Yeah, based on parties I attended in my twenties: I can testify that while reality show couple fights are usually exaggerated, that stuff actually does happen.
You'd have a blast as a child of divorced parents
Could be worse, could be child of parents that should really get divorced, but don't because of the kids
Still get to deal with most of the same shit, but the repressed perma-denial TV-marriage version, through the entirety of their developing years, and then never get the chance to see what an authentic healthy relationship looks like? Sign me up!
? So I've been separated from my ex for over a year, and we've argued exactly 3 times.
My son is even mad that we don't fight anymore and we now can move back in together because we're happy again.
This is the correct way to divorce. You meet the "right" person. Buold a friendship. Get married. Doesn't work. Divorce.
Verses getting married too fast or not building a good friendship. Then falling apart and doing a angry divorce. Shame to bring kids into that.
Talk to your partner people. Many things can be solved or made better with a little work. Then if it doesn't work you split. Learn to listen and communicate.
Then don't feel the need to take my comment personal
I guess I wasn't taking it personally rather I was surprised this was your experience. More often than not ive heard from friends their lives got much easier without the two of them arguing all the time after they separated.
Your experience absolutely isn't universal. There are millions of us with mental health issues directly related to our parents divorce and their behavior after separating.
It's super common for parents to use their children as middlemen in their arguments once they're separated, as well as trying to turn the child against the other parent.
I'm glad your divorce was different, though.
That means you have a good social circle 😄 I mean eventually it gets easier for everyone but the divorce itself is often brutal for kids if the parents start arguing about money, custody and so on. Kids often see it as their responsibility to mediate between their parents and end up in the crossfire. It's unfortunately quite common, there are entire books about it.
I believe you are talking about couples therapy.
me against my wife
me and my wife against her boyfriend
me, my wife, and my wife's boyfriend against the stranger who just butted in with "Actually..."
It happens all the time! Probably more often than actual sexual threesoms and likely more often after one!
You can. The problem is that you can never tell what the outcome will be.
You pick the right argument and the right couple : sex
You pick the wrong one : bullet
There's a lot in between those two, and you're rolling the dice
Win-win
Either way there's a possibility of dying doing what you love.
Have you tried asking the couple for their consent? If they like it, why not?
Most of the time you can't just join a couple having sex either...
Like, if you just stumbled across a couple people doing the sideways tango in the woods; they probably aren't going to just let you strip down and join in.
I have seen a lot of video proof, claiming the opposite. In particular, this happens very often to certain jobs such as plumbers, security guards and job interviewers
If you don't want people to join in, don't have sex in public!
Hey, if you didn't want my cock inside you, you shouldn't have pointed your ass at me when I'm hiking.
that's what the internet is for, it's all one big threesome
An orgy?
No, a big threesome
I prefer cuddle puddles.
Consent is everything.
If an argument is in public it's fair game.
That really depends on the culture. In mine it would be very rude.
This is why I'm training as a couples therapist
This sounds like an actual nightmare
Possibly, but I also honestly find it an interesting idea.
The way it is described it doesn’t sound like they recommend doing it with total strangers but have a conflict/discussion with a group that can chime in but is not focused on resolving the conflict but more processing it together. And honestly I think for some people that could be a good way to potentially learn and hone their way of speaking to each other.
I also really like the contra-culture idea they establish that conflict does not have to be uncontrollable and that we are responsible and accountable for our behaviour in conflict. So I think this could be an experience where you are able to air things that unsettle you while reaffirming that you bring it up because you care about the other person.
But I‘m sure this is not for everyone and is most likely a potentially energy intense way. I think the meme as well is more aimed in: I wanna butt in and say my piece without really having skin in the game.
It makes me feel like an old fashioned sitcom dad, because I fully believe it could be a healthy and positive thing for individuals and the group dynamic, but I don’t want any part of it.
"Daddy, chill."
There we go, one of the many times I see a divorce starting at Safeway I just hop in, like "yeah Rob, maybe you should be helping with the dishes".
****what's stopping you?
Me: You're stretching my sweaters!
:: Couple proceeds to leave ::
