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It sucks. I hate it. And I hate that I have no other choice.

I thought I passed pretty well and for a good bit now, and there where no indications that I didn't. I've been on HRT for over 1.5 years now and it has done a lot too.

Yet lately, especially at work, the misgendering has been getting worse and worse. Both from colleagues that knew me from back then and colleagues that are relatively new.

Why.... How... What changed.... I don't get it. What is that people actually think about me. I know what other people think of me doesn't change who I am but it's still just such a punch in the face every time.

Why couldn't it all just be different.... Why could I not have been born the way I want to.

Edit: I don't want to be trans, I don't want to hold the trans label and I don't even want anyone to remotely think about that. Not because I'm ashamed of it, just because I just want to live a normal fucking life the way I want to live.

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[–] SquishedFly@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

No they aren't. Most of my colleagues are really sweet and I'm also liked by pretty much everyone at the workplace. If it would be a thing if disrespect then I could handle it.

[–] inkzombie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago

You just said the misgendering got worse meaning that they got your pronouns right before. They aren't ignorant. They know what they're doing.