Trans
General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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Hmmmm, see I think we have different experiences - I feel living as a straight man was a real lie, whereas living as a cis woman feels entirely natural and compatible with who I am.
I do sort of feel what you're describing about how my trans-ness contributes to parts of who I am, but I think I would be more me if I were a cis woman (if that makes sense). I also just assume that because I'm bisexual and mostly sapphic that as a cis woman I would still be me in those authentic queer ways, and I think I sometimes can positively view my transness as connecting with my sexuality as a queer woman (like, maybe I look more like a lesbian as a trans woman?) ... but if I were cis I still think I would probably look like a lesbian and I wouldn't have lost anything crucial to what is me.
I think I also experience this alienation with my neurodivergence (assuming I'm right about being neurodivergent) - there are neurodivergent traits I have that very much make me "me", but which I do not endorse or like and wish were not how I am. (This makes it like the transness, it's definitely a big part of who I am, but I still have a strong desire to be different than this - it feels wrong, not like an authentic part of me, like a part of me I don't like or endorse.)
I think sometimes this topic comes up in disability discussions, about how some people can really identify with their condition (like neurodivergence), while others don't identify with them and experience it more as a pathology.
For me, my transness and my neurodivergence are more pathologies that are barriers in the way of being "me". I know not everyone experiences them this way, but it is how I experience them - and I think it's not uncommon that others experience it that way too.
When my partner loves my trans body or my body before transition, it doesn't make me feel loved - it feels like she loves someone else, because I didn't identify with my male or "hermaphroditic" body (for lack of a better term). What she sees is not the authentic or real me, and just because it's my body doesn't make it more authentic or real.
Maybe you just have a gender identity more compatible with your genderqueerness?