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I am getting there.
I've been fighting the good fight online and off for decades now, and people have broadly gotten so dense and people's worst behavior and worst manners are now considered identities and rights, and it's so massively annoying that I have grown tired of telling people to shut the fuck up about shit that either harms other people or harms themselves.
Now everyone you interact with is not trying to interact with you specifically, but trying to make something they can clip, snip or appeal to an audience with for views, upvotes and attention. They don't care about exchange, they care about getting attention from their peers.
At least in real-life (whatever that means) people are on their best behavior when you're larger than them. I really get how some cranky old dudes are always just looking for a fight.
The anonymity of the internet combined with it's openness and freedom to shit on any conversation and muddy every water and poison any well, has broadly done more harm than good, and I am really weighing the value it has for marginalized people and the like over the overall harm it's doing TO marginalized people and the like. I am tired of running defense for people who shit on my help, I am tired of having to argue about the most basic bullshit like empathy and civility or choosing to not be civil when required, because there's always either some 13-year-old who just learned they can be treated like an adult online, or some tweet-farmer in India pretending to be from my country, doing their best to take over the conversation and make it about themselves and their absolutely psychotic world-views or rage-bait.
Broadly, the worst people in the world bring out the worst in others, and that's far more infectious than good people being good because our species is all about survival, and we fight to survive.
We probably need to take away the freedom honesty. Just like China was forward thinking and employed a social credit score and took away privacy and outside influence from their internet, it sounds horrific but I totally get it. We probably will do that all over the world when this reaches a head. I don't trust our current government institutions in the west to do it right, but the internet is killing our society, people aren't having relationships anymore, people aren't making friends, people just imagine the worst about each other and retreat to private echo chambers and AI chatbots that suck them off.