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Is friendi the only one? I want to move and try getting other people off of fb that are sick of its bullshit, but I need to make sure the alternative is a good one and we dont all have to hop around 5 times to get to a good one...

Keep in mind 98% of them are tech illiterate.

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[–] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 9 points 20 hours ago (1 children)
[–] FenderStratocaster@piefed.social 9 points 20 hours ago (3 children)

There is NO ONE on Friendica. You might as well print your posts and tape them to people's doors at home.

[–] EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 3 points 13 hours ago

Every new platform has to start somewhere.

No one is on any platform until they are.

[–] Tuuktuuk@anarchist.nexus 4 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (2 children)

That's the same as saying there's NO ONE on PieFed.

FenderStratocaster, you are on Friendica yourself. Your comment saying there's no one on Friendica is visible on Friendica – therefore, you are there just like you are Lemmy, PieFed and mBin.

(But yeah, my use of Friendica mostly ended after two days, because it's clunky as hell! I had a feeling that whatever little thing I want to do, I need to first fight the UI like a mouse trying to kill a dragon.)

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 7 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (1 children)

Not the same.

Facebook is a friend/follower-following/groups type of platform, the people are the key, without them its pointless.

Reddit is a forum of anonymous strangers, you can easily substitute one group of strangers with another group of strangers and have things to talk about. Cuz it's about topics, not inter-personal relations.

[–] Tuuktuuk@anarchist.nexus 5 points 17 hours ago

Facebook hasn't worked that way for me for years. I'm surprised to hear it still does to some! Almost everything in my feed was all kinds of random groups I'm not even a member of. And a lot of content promoting Russian military vehicles in a very ridiculous manner.

[–] FenderStratocaster@piefed.social 1 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

I don't know. I try to see what's out there and it's 2 people posting. WIST Quotations and Protestation (Portogues). And that's really it.

I self-host my own instance of Friendica, and there are a few options, since discovery is nigh impossible on low-user instances:

  • If you have admin access, you can use relays. (I used to, but they really impacted the server's performance, so I stopped)
  • If you don't you can see if there are popular groups to follow (fedi.garden, or there is a friendica group directory)
  • Also I use fediwall.social to find accounts to follow, just search up some hashtags from the popular servers to follow interesting accounts
[–] Tuuktuuk@anarchist.nexus 1 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (1 children)

You need to follow some PieFed or Lemmy communities and you'll see their content. But not in a way that works very well. I really like the idea behind Friendica a lot, but it's also clear that its developers have lost the track of their own code and do not completely understand what the program really does anymore. The idea is that there's something like PieFed that understands also several other protocols than just ActivityPub, so you can use one thing to follow almost all of your social media. Which is an awesome idea! But, it doesn't really work in practical terms.

It looks like there is no well-thought architecture behind its programming code, and instead they just add features atop other features without thinking about consistency or clarity of the programming code.

Typically when the UI is as convoluted to use that of Friendica is, there are also a lot of security problems in the program. I assume that it is possible to breach any Friendica account using some bug that has made its way into the code.

[–] FenderStratocaster@piefed.social 1 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I want a de-centralized social media platform where people I know in real life are on it. There really is no convincing people of switching though.

[–] Tuuktuuk@anarchist.nexus 2 points 18 hours ago

Just keep sending them cool memes from here or from Mastodon. Some will find them interesting and join up. Most won't. Also, you'll need some interesting group they will want to be a member of on Signal or Matrix or XMPP. That way, they also have a chat platform available for their friends as well.

And if you link to something in the Forumverse, link them through an instance you'd like them to use. So, even if the community is on some Lemmy instance, link to it through something such as piefed.social, if that's what you think would benefit them the most as a choice for a home instance!
It's a pity this does not work on Mastodon, though, because Mastodon always tries to push users to the instance where the message was written from, if the user is not logged in. Complicates things unnecessarily when the domain is different in every damn link! But with a widely federated Forumverse instance this problem doesn't exist, because you can link to everything through that. And the people opening the link don't need to understand anything about Federation. They just see this thing called piefed.social, and that there's plenty of content you keep throwing at them. Without telling them to join.