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Not teaching me a lot of basic shit, like how to shave, how credit/debit works, exploring food like sushi, teaching me about other countries.
I was taught a lot, especially common sense. I can troubleshoot and diagnose like a madman, even things I know very little about. But my dad wasn't a talker, so didn't get much there.
I talk to my kid about everything, we lookup what we don't know or want to know more about. I go over mistakes I made in life giving him examples of how to not make the same mistakes and save himself the time and trouble.
We call everything "experience", even bad things, and we learn from them, not unlike skill points and experience points in video games. You can learn from anything, not just good things.
Same about not teaching basics. When I was old enough to shave my dad gave me his old electric shaver and bought himself a new one. I get not giving a kid the nice, new thing, but it still felt crappy. And then he didn't show me how to use it. So the first time I used it I rinsed it out with water. Turns out it wasn't made to get wet, and it rusted horribly and was immediately ruined. All he had to do was show me once how to use and clean it and it would have lasted for years. This sort of thing happened over and over, I had to learn a lot of stuff the hard way because no one taught me.
omg... this is so me. I try to justify it by telling myself they might be on the spectrum
Sounds like you're doing a great job though