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As a guy, I never really felt comfortable saying those things to anyone irl.

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[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

MtF genderfluid here

The more feminine I have become, the more acceptable it is for me to show emotional vulnerability. The more people genuinely listen to me and not treat me like a disgusting animal they are hesitantly entertaining until they can get away.

When I lived as a cis man not even my friends wanted to hear it, and they are good people.

When a man cries in front of his partner for the first time, usually a switch will flip, and that partner will never look at you the same way again. Being vulnerable with even your closest relationships often feels like a mistake.

Men don't talk about their feelings because almost nobody in society has empathy for others, especially if you are more masculine, especially if you "look scary".

The experience being a man is isolating and dehumanizing by default.