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I'm not sure about all that, but they don't seem very healthy despite the cute animals.
What part doesn’t seem healthy?
I suppose it's the all encompassing nature. I understand what is meant, but as mantras, they feel incomplete. Also, I didn't mean it as something super controversial. Ha. But, fwiw.
"Not my responsibility" I'm sure means not taking on others baggage. However, it would feel wrong not to consider my partner's feelings, for example. That is a responsibility I honor.
Again, this makes sense if the ability/agency to say no is a necessary reminder. But it very much matters what you are saying no to. You can say no in ways that don't command self respect.
It's good to check one's self on over thinking or negative thinking. But it could also seen as encouraging a lack of self confidence.
This ones fine and feels more complete in that "have to" is a good reminder when required. In fact, it's because I prefer to earn rest that it makes forna good aphorism!
Surely, if you ignore self-care then a reminder can be helpful. But there is a time to prioritize others and that "permission" to choose yourself can come from healthy empathy for other people.