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Well no, IM has generally always defaulted to a norm of much shorter messages.
But... fairly lengthy forum posts?
Yeah, that used to be pretty common.
And it used to be normal that if someone posted 'I ain't readin' all that', they would be mocked.
Now, its the reverse.
And also... yeah I am still baffled by people whose response to ... an introduction message, on some kind of dating app/site... is to just laugh at how long it is.
... I'd used OKCupid in its early days.
Generally?
If you took the time to actually read someone's profile, and... write something, based on shared interests... that was ... a good thing to do.
Shows that you actually care.
Now? Try to do the same thing?
Apparently people can't comprehend that an initial, long, introduction message, does not mean that all other messages will necessarily be as long, unless you explicitly tell people this.
I keep encountering this kind of behavior.
And I'm just doing the same thing I've been doing for ... almost 2 decades?
Like... for the record, it has 'worked' to at least some extent, I've had multiple year+ relationships that started from doing that...
Just seems like more and more people are having a hostile response to a lengthy intro.