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Is anyone else's friends getting really distant? (lemmy.ca)

submitted 1 month ago by rabber@lemmy.ca to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I'm probably just an asshole nobody wants to talk to, but I can hardly even get a reply text from anyone anymore. A couple people have told me that they are just feeling burnt out/depressed/etc and don't have even enough energy to answer a message anymore. But I've also had some long time friends just entirely ghost me in the last year as well with no explanation. It feels like I'm surrounded by NPCs. I've basically just stopped reaching out to anyone at this point. Outside of my work, literally the only people I talk to are my parents, sister, and my girlfriend. Everyone else seems dead inside. I used to have at least 10 people who I could call on a moments notice and all of those people are gone.

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[–] AcidiclyBasicGlitch@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 month ago

Idk shits really crazy right now, and I think everybody is kind of dissociating to some extent.

It might not be that your friends don't want to see you, but just that everyone is so overwhelmed that it makes normal feel impossible.

It's just kind of like everything feels like it's barely hanging on by a thread, and it makes focusing on anything very difficult. Then that turns into a cycle of fuck I forgot to reply to this person 2 days ago, I can't just reply now like nothing happened. Then that gets added to the ever growing list of things you're avoiding bc you didn't even mean to avoid them in the first place