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[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 75 points 2 days ago (6 children)

People who send every single separate line or thought as a separate message annoy me to no ends. Just type everything and send it all at once! Paragraphs motherfucker, use them!

[–] BananaIsABerry@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago

Seems like an older way of writing. I still find myself doing it occasionally because I wrote that way a lot when I was younger.

[–] SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world 24 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (5 children)

What I also hate is when people clearly want to ask me something over text but than go through the entire conversational starter rigmarole. And then even wait minutes before they reply.

Like
Friend: “hi”
Me: “hi how’s it going?”
5 minutes pass by
Friend: “I’m good how are you?”
Me: “I’m great, what’s up?”
4 minutes pass by
Friend: “Are you free this Sunday?”
Me: “Uh depends, you want to do something?”
6 minutes pass by
Friend: “Can you come over for lunch?”
Me: “yeah sure, what time?”
15 minutes pass by
Friend: “don’t know yet”

Like motherfucker just send it all in one text. Wasted 30 minutes for nothing

[–] python@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago

My brother keeps doing that, so I literally told him "I will not answer your message unless you state what you want in your first message". It's been about a year since I answered any of his messages. He usually just tells our parents and they ask me in a more reasonable manner.

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Fuck. That shit drives me crazy. You gotta keep in mind though that chat is async and not everybody is like us and attention is on or off and lives on a computer or phone.

[–] radish@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago

This is why I'd rather just get a phone call. Those five-minute gaps are like 5-second pauses in speech.

[–] bdjegifjdvw@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago
[–] essell@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Have you considered carrying on with your day, rather than waiting, to avoid wasting the 30 minutes?

[–] SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

of course i carry on with my day, I'm not a moron. It's just annoying that I get interrupted multiple times in those 30 minutes because the other person decides to wait 5 minutes between each answer.

[–] renzhexiangjiao@piefed.blahaj.zone 30 points 2 days ago (2 children)

you should direct your annoyance to the apps that send a separate notification for every single message sent in short succession. there should be a notification cooldown period

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Right? The issue here is not individual messages or not, it's the attention seeking dopamine manipulation of unchecked capitalism. Read receipts, is typing, individual notifications, lazy programming, roping the user into addiction and reliance.

In a 1v1 or chat, individual messages is fine. Wanting to only be one message per person is a forum and email relic to prevent spam, like doubleposting.

[–] jpeps@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

This totally used to be a thing on Android but then they removed it 😔

[–] faintwhenfree@lemmus.org 27 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] faintwhenfree@lemmus.org 21 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Such a big deal that people send texts in

[–] faintwhenfree@lemmus.org 22 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Broken lines and broken phrases whenever they

[–] faintwhenfree@lemmus.org 23 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Like. But at least they are sending a coherent thought.

[–] faintwhenfree@lemmus.org 19 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Texting like this feels like speedy and my brain goes all

[–] faintwhenfree@lemmus.org 19 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Zoom zoom. And it's just a wonderful

[–] faintwhenfree@lemmus.org 18 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] muffedtrims@lemmy.world 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)

And one more thing I just remembered

[–] Flames5123@sh.itjust.works 19 points 2 days ago (2 children)
[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago

Professionalism vs casual

[–] lol_idk@piefed.social 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I feel like this started with AOL Instant Messenger which would be X and millennials

[–] Rhaedas@fedia.io 11 points 2 days ago

There were other messenger systems like ICQ, Pidgin, Trillian, or built in IMs on multi-user BBS systems and you'd see all mixes of speaking. Even early Usenet would get half thoughts from some people. Different people just use communication methods differently in any generation. What's worse is when you send a message with multiple parts in any format (email or direct message) and you get a reply back only answering part of what you said. Lack of focus is a cross-generational thing.

[–] Emi@ani.social 6 points 2 days ago

We should try writing letters again from time to time.