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Turns out, rising times of ever-escalating fascism is profoundly bad for queers who dress to stand out.

Things got a bit muted, a bit sadder, a bit more somber.

A friend of mine says, “you look like an android trying her hardest to escape Detroit,” and I don’t think she’s wrong; and good god, what a fucking parallel to now-times.

I couldn’t dress normal even if I tried.

I made a selfie post here like a year ago, so I hope it’s okay to make another one. A few of you were amazed at my outfits and such, and told me to never change, to keep standing out.

Sorry my look changed, but it helps keep me safer.

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[–] MystValkyrie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

I feel this. I started buying more simple black and other drab-colored clothing this year without immediately putting two and two together that it was because I don't feel safe in the country I live in anymore.

Your new style works really well for you too! It just shouldn't have to be this way. It should be our choice without having to worry about how others will react.