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You might be right but you're not really helping. I'm trying to fix things and specifically avoid divorce.
I completely agree with your stance.
However if your spouse has not figured you out by now and how you use things that’s a pretty major red flag.
Keep it under tight control and communicate better other wise something small like this will snowball to it’s eventual end.
I’ve seen it happen too many times.
If you're trying to fix things, tell your spouse that you appreciate the sentiment (assuming you even do) and talk it out. My guess is that you instead got disputatious and made it clear that you actually didn't appreciate the effort, that what you have already is More Than Good Enough, Thank You, which put your spouse on their heels and hurt their feelings.
Of course this is just a guess on my part, but that's the vibe I got. As another said, you definitely sound like you're on the spectrum and need to keep that in mind when dealing with other people. You may not see the world in the same way as they do.