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You never press it?
…that was more the intent of my last sentence.
I’m Asian from the US South. You learn real quick that pressing a black person for information isn’t always great for race relations. Where I grew up if you pressed MeMaw (our daycare teacher) for an answer, all you were getting back was extreme sarcasm or anger. I grew up knowing when not to “press it”. Go too far and MeMaw would slap the shit out of you and you knew you deserved it. With my friends, there’s just some aspects of black culture that aren’t for us, and that’s ok.
You didnt ask for a brand name? Thats the least inoffensive thing you can di assumjng asking to smell like them isnt perceived as an insult per se
Just ask
Even if its different from their own secret brand, Be and look sincere in asking. I doubt they'll be too offended by asking their advice
Everyone fancies themself a curator of taste or that which is desirable