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From one anarchist trans woman to another:
How do you figure you have the authority to force someone into existence? Like, for real. To me this feels like the most selfish act possible. I can't see any reasons that would stand up to scrutiny to have children other than "cause I wanna". And yes. It's forcing them. It's not "a gift", since a gift can be declined.
oohhhhh woe is meeee i nEVeR AsKEd tO BE BorN good god that's cringe, all edge no point. This is literally 12 year old shit. And yes, your liking of eugenics is completely transparent, you don't want anyone like you to be allowed to reproduce. That's fascist as fuck
I know several new dads who would be absolutely livid at the thought of someone calling them "selfish" for what they're currently submitting themselves to XD
A lot of us had shitty parents and find it easy to transpose those traits onto all parents. But there at least as many parents out there for whom it's absolutely the largest sacrifice they've made in their entire lives. It's them pouring all of their collected love, knowledge, and material means onto someone else so that they don't leave this Earth having only taken from it.
And if their kids grow up anything like me, they'll be grateful for that choice and happy to be alive.
Ok but this kind of doesn't answer my question... Also to the point of "don’t leave this Earth having only taken from it" yeah, it's even worse, cause now there is a whole new person that will also take from the earth.
And if they don't, they might not be. That's kind of my point. A HUGE gamble like that is totally okay to take for yourself but not for someone else, without their consent.