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I don't think it's very common, partners and flatmates have definitely (and understandably) been frustrated. When I was younger and used to smoke, my friends would be horrified that I wouldn't tap ash into the an ashtray, but just into the floor or couch I was sitting on. It wasn't intentional, I don't like getting ash over myself (or having to pick up envelopes, or find socks scattered over the house) but if I was occupied by a conversation or even just thinking about something, it would happen without my noticing.
But to be fair, I have adhd, so I've got a bunch of issues around attention and impulse control. It's a tiresome habit, and I'm definitely not condoning it. I'm just so glad that I don't act like that outside my home. There I'm just normal levels of thoughtless, like forgetting to use coasters.