I use tuta mail and tuta calendar for mail and calendar, Vivaldi as browser on laptop, and Firefox on android. Bitwarden as password manager and bitwarden auth as 2fa. Use obsidian for notes and appstore is aurora store and droidify, I use archlinux. And for "cloud" storage, actually a backup I use This USB drive not cloud Buf works for me. Still kinda dependent on proprietary messaging platforms, but I have 1 friend on signal. Also I am trying to replace YouTube with fmhy.net not exactly YouTube alternative, but has so many resources for free to study, educate myself, or just watch something out of amusement.
'Thoughtful' im not going to waste my time on irritable people who are angry for no reason and can't see things from other people's perspectives. Like i said, o ise sognal and think everyone should, but from the perspective of your loved ones, YOU'RE the one choosing an app preference over the relationship not them. Youre asking them to make a change and adopt one of your preferences, and setting an ultimatum that you wont talk to them unless they do. I think its silly still, but thats how theyre going to see it, not the other way around.