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Mankeeping: why single women are giving up dating (www.theguardian.com)
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[–] Initiateofthevoid@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

This is ragebait.

So, what, men should work on themselves instead? Bingo. Perhaps if men weren’t so beholden to ridiculous masculine archetypes and developed a toolkit for processing their emotions, some of this discrepancy would disappear.

[...] You shouldn’t need to rely on women to shoulder the burden of your emotional constipation.

It's no surprise they don't show an author for this. This is someone actively trying to piss men off for engagement.

The link to the researcher's content, which isn't a study or anything doesn't seem to suggest women are giving up dating because of this, and certainly doesn't support that argument above. It explains:

Although men’s loneliness hurts men, their struggles can become a burden for women as well. Ferrara argues that men’s loneliness, a problem thought to be individual, is in fact structural.

"Loneliness tends to negatively impact partners lives too" is fair game for a psychology grad student's thesis (which is what this appears to be), but it's not a surprise. But they clearly point out this isn't an individual problem.

And don't even get me started on their link to the Pew research.It's actually a good read, and explores a lot of very real issues about dating and politics, personal risk, and societal influence... but it absolutely doesn't support any of this article's bullshit. At all.

This is ragebait. Shame on you, OP. Don't share ragebait.