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“Maybe he just…” rude? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 5 days ago by religion6614@sh.itjust.works to c/kindnesskommunityalt@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Sometimes, when I reassure my girlfriend, I’ll say when someone is an asshole, “maybe he just X”, like “maybe he just had a bad day” or “maybe he’s not mean, he’s just upset” or “your dad has to take care of the family, so when he’s mean to you or mom, he’s stressed since he cares”.

Am I being rude for this?? Kind advice please. Or when her online friend said “IM GONNA KILL EVERYONE” I told her it was a joke and she shouldn’t say anything because it was probably him joking.

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[–] TragicNotCute@lemmy.world 6 points 4 days ago (2 children)

In “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”, the first few chapters talk about a man’s desire to fix problems and a woman’s desire to talk about problems. I don’t wanna step into the minefield of modern gender politics, but I do think in general this advice has helped me be a better boyfriend/partner.

So maybe less explaining why people are the way they are, and more “I hear you, that really sucks and I’m sorry they are being so rude”.

[–] religion6614@sh.itjust.works 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Thank you!! This is helpful, I’ll try this 🙏

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