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This comment is not meant to come off as judgemental, so I hope it doesn't. I know that many other relationships function differently, but I cannot comprehend long term partners that do not want to combine everything. My partner is my partner, full stop, in all ways. There is no "splitting" because the money she earns and the money I earn is just our money. We budget together, we discuss purchases together, we shop together.
My wife and I have been sharing finances and everything forever. But many people don't and it really feels like it's because they half know it's not going to work out. So they just don't bother committing.
Nahh, I’d just rather avoid the arguments over what she spends money on. I disagree with it, but we keep our finances separate so it’s her money to spend, not our money to discuss how it gets spent.
Just easier that way
If you two make enough that she can keep her own money and buy whatever she wants without affecting your finances, then arguing about what she spends money on when your finances aren't separate has nothing to do with money.
Same. We have our own accounts as well as shared accounts. We both put the same amount into our shared accounts but also maintain the rest separately. Best of both worlds. No reason to agree about non-shared expenses. I watched my parents argue over money too many times to want that in my life. We don't need to agree or share opinions on non-shared purchases.