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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

ofc its not a phobia to have preferences. my critique is towards excluding people from certain labels of gender based attraction, for things other than their gender. especially if those people are systemically opressed for their gender.

crazy example now, but sometimes that helps seeing things in a new light:

if i say that im not into old people because i am a lesbian, then thats kinda messed up, because it implies that old women are not women.

does that help?

and ofc, because we live in a cis-normative society, many people dont often think about how women can also have dicks. forgetting about that isnt necessairily transphobic but might also just be a cis-normative oopsy.