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When all examples they ever give for anything consist completely of men.
Have you ever looked into a reddit post on a topic like "Who are the best actors of all time?" Thousands of comments, nearly all male actors. "Worst actors?" Also all men. "Examples of this trope?" Only scenes with men. Stock photos or drawn figures to illustrate their point? You guessed it – all men (unless it's sexist in another way).
For some men we just don't exist as people of equal significance.
Yeah, a "men are the rule, women are the exception" mindset really tells a lot.
Indeed, when I started at my current job there was a Anglophile guy who was really into the Beatles and other "classic rock" groups. Being from an English speaking country he was keen to talk to me, at length, about music.
After a while I noticed that he never mentioned any groups that even had one woman in the lineup, I started asking his opinion about the likes of Janis Joplin and Heart, and he just kind of locked up.
He will now say a frosty hello to me if I prompt him directly, but that's about it ... he has two daughters who don't talk to him apparently.
Lol
I've started seeing a few more comics/memes which have women as the representative of a universal experience (rather than, as you say, representing a sexist trope) and it's absurd how happy it makes me.
This might be a bit pedantic, but if they're asking about "actors" that usually implies they're asking about males. So if you're seeing only male actors in response that's probably not so much sexism and just people just responding accurately to the question being posed.
If they phrased the question as "Who are the best actors/actresses of all time" and people still only came up with male actors then okay yeah.
I did not mean to make it seem like I was quoting a specific question word for word, it was more about the general concept, however it is worded. It might be worded as you put it or not be about actors. Or like my example be more generally about movie scenes. Or...
Unlike my native language, English is usually ungendered and I sometimes forget that there are some few exceptions to that rule.