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Kinda sad and ironic, that the term “toxic masculinity” began as a way to describe how culture manufactures a harmful concept of what it means to be a man, and it seeps into men and damages them like a toxin… but now we use it to mean that the man himself is toxic, undermining the whole notion of thinking of the problem as systemic rather than one of individuals.
Anyway, patriarchy is absolutely demolishing men right now, and the political right is saying “women’s fault” while the left is saying “lmao skill issue”. If we don’t get our shit together and start treating this seriously, we’re gonna have big problems.
The problem with the term "toxic masculinity" is what exactly can we describe as "positive" masculinity? Is masculinity only toxic, or are there positive things that aren't feminine?
Considering what is "masculine" is a societal construct, so the things I can think of are like: holding the door open for others, walking with people positioning yourself by the road, those sorts of "if something happens, I hope my charred corpse keeps my loved one alive" morbid acts, or in general putting yourself last on purpose.
So... chivalry?
You folk should really check out Jung.