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Glad you achieved that, but living the same life everyday without any power to change things isn't my idea of happiness.
So, what is your definition of not happiness l, which is short-lived and fleeing, but of true contentment?
Hint, if you need 'things' to make you content aside the obvious necessities, chances are that you may be a bit wrong.
Not saying it is easy, but what would you like to do different?
My definition, not being a corporate wage slave drone for the rest of my life, retire and then die. Not have my youth wasted socially and economically. Work for myself building my own businesses in things that interest me. Be remembered for doing great things, have some kids I can pass a legacy onto. Make as much money as possible, get a Bugatti, live in Europe have a small mansion and land. Be well connected and around interesting people. That in a nutshell.
Would you actually need a Bugatti to be content? Like your life would somehow feel incomplete without one? Or is just a nice to have, sort of thing?
The wage slave part, I think, we all get. One of my biggest fears when I was young was to dread going to work every single morning or be staring at the clock due to hating the job, while waiting to get out. I had to make some really hard life decisions when I was young, as to avoid that.
When you say business, you mean being self-driven and self-sufficient? Or was there a specific type of business you wanted to do? Also, sorry to hear about the challenges, sure skills are a huge factor, but the one thing that gets overlooked in stories of success is that there is a large chance or luck factor, as well. One can do everything right, and still fail. Specially if you do not have a cash windfall to back you up.
The being rembered is a good drive, but 99.99% of all people will not achieve that in the way most Invision it. You would have to be highly unique in some way, what are you unique at, if you do not mind me asking? I mean, being a good person and being truly loved by those that matter to you is a great way to be remembered. I guess, a question is of how would you want to be remembered or by whom? And if that is realistic.
Money is good for the safety and security aspect, sure. Some land is always good. But in my experience, going after money is mostly a fool's errand. Since once you get in that treadmill, and it is a treadmill, there is no end to it. You will never have enough money, unless you have an exact amount, now, where you will stop at and that is doable/actionable. Or, you will never be fully satisfied by the money angle. There will always be more money that could be had. I have never met anyone who is driven by profit or money being content, aside some fleeing ego boost for bragging rights to shallow people. Ironically, money should usually be a side effect of living the life that you want, and not the main drive. Some of the most successful people that are worth remembering were usually not driven by money.
Aside very close or intimate relationships, depending on the acceptance of others as way to derive contentment is usually not advisable. Finding just interesting people is really not hard, specially in a large city, if you are just looking for interesting people and not 'wealthy' interesting people. Why do you want to be well connected? Favours? Bragging rights? FOMO?
What country in Europe, would you like to live in? Also, what of those things could you start doing now? I am a bit older than you and trust me, time flies. If you want kids you will have to get on that like, yesterday. One of my older best friends had a kid at 43, meeting his future wife a few years ealier, he spent a good chunk of his life building his career, he is now well off, but it dawn on him that by the time she is out of Uni, he will be 65+. He now wishes he could have more time, than money, and not be such an old man by then, and I doubt he will try for a second kid. You may need to highly prioritise at least some of your goals. You may find that your list is a nice wishlist but that you do not actually need to have all of those things to be content. Also, I hardly ever seen, highly money or career driven people who are also good or great parents. There are simply not enough hours in a day, and just buying them expensive things is not good parenting. Two highly career driven parents is a recipe for badly adjusted kids, or even just two overworked parents.
It seems that you have a lot of goals, which are the 3 most important and vital ones to you?
Ok Lamborghini gallardo then 😂. Just nice to have. I feel you I'm regards to wage slavery, hence I endeavoured into failed business ventures. Correct, self driven and self sufficient. Import/export brokering deals, but my partners and I quit after several years of getting close to closing some deals as we got tired of all the bullshit, and saw no way to succeed as long as we were stuck in Australia with a lack of funds to move overseas. Yes exactly, I don't believe effort gets you results anymore. From my observations business success only comes to those whose parents were already well connected and financially well off. If your have neither like me, then your fucked. I'd like to be in the history books having done something, if not at least my friends, family and business associates. I haven't thought about unique skills, just been trying different business ventures until one sticks. I've got a lot of talents, Ive got a good singing voice, but I don't want to be a performer, can play other instruments, can compose music, can paint, draw etc. Have a talent for saving money, have a good memory, good at analysis. I've been poor and am to a degree, I'll take money any day. The whole money doesn't make you happy argument is mute. I'd rather cry in a Bugatti than in a ford focus. Yeah, but I'd rather not be those famous poor people. I'd rather not be Mozart or Tesla, not interested in dying poor. I want wealthy connections so I can advance in life, just like what other people have, no reason I should be exempt from that advantage. Poor interesting people get boring very quickly in my experience and have lives that go nowhere. I'm looking at eastern Europe were it's cheap to live and there's very little gov regulations and low taxes like Hungary, Czech republic, Slovakia, Poland etc. There's nothing I can do to make the situation better, Ive accepted that now. Kids 😂, that will never happen I can't even find any single women, nor can I see that I will. So I've accepted that too. All I have to look forward to is maybe an early retirement and banging the occasion hooker till I die.