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I liked reading both of your arguments, and I think they have merit on both sides. I'm sorry to see this became hostile, but I think the discussion up go the parent comment was good. I hope next one will stay friendly!
Well, our discussion didn't go too far off the rails, but it sure escalated with the other commenter. I think this guy just likes to argue.
"I get you don't think it's important, but there's plenty of sysadmins that do, with experience backing that up." Is a passive aggressive remark designed to belittle me based on a notion that you have experience and qualifications over me that makes your point more valid, and also that other people with experience and qualifications would hypothetically agree. It very clearly implicitly claims that I am not a sysadmin and that lacking sysadmin experience is why I am wrong. This does not add to the point at all and provides, so it could not be seen as any other way than an expression of that. However, I still gave you the benefit of doubt and I felt I expressed pretty rationally that that remark does not add to the comment and is disrespectful and that it may have been unintentional to be disrespectful.
But now "I think this guy just likes to argue." and "it sure escalated with the other commenter" is clear evidence that you were just trying to be rude. I certainly don't like to "argue" but much more than that I don't like to be disrespected. So I will stand up for myself and call out such poor behavior.