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How do I better support my trans supervisee? (lemmy.ml)
submitted 2 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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Hi Lemmy,

Apologies if this is a dumb question.

I have a trans person that I supervise and I know he is having a hard time after Trump's only two genders executive order.

Is there anything I can do to make sure that he feels supported at work?

I have regular check-in meetings with my staff so I was hoping to see how he was doing, but don't want to force him into an uncomfortable discussion.

Note: His performance is still excellent at his job so this isn't a "coaching conversation" or anything like that

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[โ€“] [email protected] 20 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I've had trans reports in the past when I was a supervisor (TBF, the world was a lot different). Two things that I'd recommend:

  • Continue being a good lead and treating them with respect, using their preferred pronouns, etc. Intervene gently but firmly if there is inappropriate derogatory stuff going on in the workplace.

  • If possible, I'd get a 1:1 meeting with them and outright ask "Do you want to talk with me about how current events are impacting you and anything that I can do to ensure that you feel supported?". If they say "no" or aren't comfortable, ensure that they know that that's ok and that the offer is there.

As a disclaimer, I am neurospicy so, there may be gentler ways to approach but I have found that clearly and directly communicating that genuine support is there, if they need it want it and giving them a way to ask is generally well-received.

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago

I'd say instead of setting up a meeting, just take a second on a quiet day and ask how they're going, if they want any support or to talk. It still has the same positive effect, but an outright scheduled meeting feels a bit weird, my first assumption for one is negative (though again, it could just be me).

Some great points though, I'm sure they'd recognise the intent to be good.

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