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I watched the movie Babes with my wife last night, and it perfectly encapsulated this tweet.
And I surprisingly enjoyed it despite being childfree myself. It didn't gloss over the shity parts of parenthood like most movies do, and it was honest about how much it can suck.
The problem is as /u/DupaCycki@lemmy.world pointed out, an issue of capitalism. The movie unfortunately and unsurprisingly didn't address that, it sort or just carried on with the status quo assumption that the current situation and system doesn't need replaced. That's the only bit I didn't enjoy.
IMO the best replacement system I've seen proposed is the Aandrisk system of hatch/feather/house families from Becky Chamber's "The Long Way to a Small, Angry Planet" series.
For those unfamiliar, Aandrisks are humanoid reptiles with feathers for hair, and they divide their lives into three sections, hatch family, feather family, and house family.
Everyone is "born" as hatchling, being raised in groups of a dozen or two, in hatch families. They aren't really considered people until they are physically mature. Generally they aren't actually siblings, but instead come from donated eggs.
Once they mature they leave to go form feather families. These basically are polycules of people in their 20s to late 30s that are there for community, sexual relations, and to explore the world. They don't raise kids, they live their life and gain experience. Any offspring they do produce gets dropped off at a house family.
House families are older groups, often formed from old feather families who are looking to settle down and stabilize. They take in eggs from feather families and raise them to maturity.
It's got an elegance we are very much lacking in humans, especially with capitalism being in the mix.
If the offspring are dropped off at house families, where do the babies at hatch families come from?
It's the same family, but called differently depending on perspective.
If you were just "born", it's your hatchling family, if you're in the last third of your life, it's your house family.
More information if you'd like: https://wayfarers.fandom.com/wiki/Aandrisk
OH. That makes sense then. Neat idea op.
Human communes kind of worked this way in the past.
Outside of my crippling OCD, I'd probably really love living in a commune.
Sorry for your OCD but to be completely honest I dont see how humanity can improve our current living situation without living in communes of some sort.
we currently live in large cities, large municipalities, and large countries where most people barely know eacj other and barely feel anything for each other . We are ruled by police officers, bribed politicians and multimillionaaires, multimillionaires who could launch nukes to eradicate 99% of the population of species on Earth at a moments notice. And on top of that we work longer hours these days than most of our ancestors ever did work and at a moment's notice any of us could lose our jobs leading to homelessness or the loss of our social standing or the los of our loved ones.... This is throoguhly divorced from the original style of livong that humans used to have back when our ancestors started creating these same municipalities a nd social communities. But humans are social creatures - most humans need a 'tribe' of some sort that they can defend, work for, work with, love, and be loved by. Why would we firther divorce our species from the original forms of communitiy which humanity found to be so beneficial back then. Humans spent easily 95% of of our species existence living in small tribes, small communes and small villages. Such a lifestyle and such colmunities are practically in our blood at this point.
What I think is that if yoy did ever live in a tribe you could call your own maybe theyd help you with living a lifestyle that would help you to treat your OCD or theyd craft their lifestyles in ways to help you and them communicate and spend time together even with your OCD. Hopefully 🫂
I wish you and all of us the best on this journey forward cause what we have today just isnt working for most people as far as Im concened.