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I think it's a good phrase? My mom said it a lot when I was young, but as I've grown it's started to sound like passive aggressive negging?
Which I always tried to do, but in practice I was seeking out to be tge dumbest person in any given room. Now as an adult I have severe anexity, I wonder if this was a factor.
Open to thoughts on this.
Yes, it's nice to learn from your friends but I think it's more important for them to just BE friends. The kind of people who defend you when attacked. The kind of people who think similarly to you. The kind of people that make you want to do the same. Respect!
There's a saying that applies to this thread, "Friends will help you move. Good friends will help you move bodies."
Get good friends. BE a good friend.
I think it is good advice too. All these smarter friends of yours are probably smarter about different things. And perhaps you have low self esteem tied to your anxiety? Which keeps you from seeing all the ways you are their smarter friend? 🤷♂️ I know I sure as heck do. Thanks for sharing your advice.