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Problem is uninvited fetishization there is also lotsa trans people who like the respectful ones fyi
Respectful chaser feels like an oxymoron, not seeing trans people as actual people is part of my definition
I think not seeing trans people as people is not requirement to be a chaser. I am a translesbian myself and I have seen straight trans people talk that they are okay with them and junk.you at entitled to your opinion and I agree with you on a personal level but I am not gonna rain on anyone's parade
But doesn't a chaser stand between a trans person and a full transition?
(Or is it even the goal of most trans people to get bottom surgery? I don't know too many trans people personally, so I'd love some input here)
NOTE: I have provided numbers for trans women, buy I do not have numbers on trans men or trans nonbinary folks. There is likely to be deviation in those groups from the data I have provided.
Estimates from the US provide that only as much as 50% of trans women want to get any type of gender-affirming surgery, let alone bottom surgery, which is the hardest to recover from, the most difficult to get, and generally among the most expensive procedures available. Current estimates also provide that about of 11% of trans women in the US will be able to get bottom surgery in their lifetime. Keep in mind that in the US, 35% of trans women do not have health insurance, making it practically impossible for most of that 35% to even get it. Of the remaining 65%, there is still significant costs to get surgery, including not only the payments to insurance, but also travel and accommodation expenses (as you'll need to remain near the hospital u get it done at for around 30 days post-op). Many of us will never have the means to get it, even those of us who want to, especially with how disproportionately poverty affects trans people.
Me, personally? I'm going to get it. I don't care what else I have to give up, I will either get the surgery, or die trying. My girlfriend is the same way. But again, only ~50% of trans women even seriously want to get bottom surgery, and that's on the larger side of the estimates.
Trans women should have agency over their bodies. We, and no one else, should have the ability to make those decisions for us. There are many trans women not interested in surgery, and that's completely fine. Surgery doesn't make a trans woman any more or less valid, or any more or less of a woman. Every trans woman is a woman, regardless of how they choose to transition. Some of us don't even want to take HRT. The idea of a "full transition" is ignorant, and transmedicalist. However a trans person wants to transition is their own business, and it's certainly not up to cis people to decide what we should do.
That being said—for the same reason of bodily autonomy that makes your description of it problematic—someone who attempts to inhibit a trans person's ability to transition in the way they want is obviously in the wrong as well. It is no one's choice but our own how we transition.
Certainly not something you bring up to strangers just trying to do their jobs.
Not every trans woman wants bottom surgery and that is not s requirement to be a chaser