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Im with you there, but not in a sad bleak way. I love my wife more than anything, but its a lot of work. Right down to the little things like putting my clothes on every day and listening to her vent about her work and shit like that.
If this all blows up in my stupid face and I wind up alone again, I'm just going to stay alone.
I am in a different position than you with a completely different experience. My wife and I started dating when she was 15 and I was 16. We've been together 40 years, married for 33.
There is no good way this relationship could end, so I wouldn't want to wonder how that might happen, but one thing I'm sure of is it is the last relationship I'll ever be in. If I was single tomorrow, I'd stay that way. I've had one relationship in my life, and by any measure it is a fantastic one. Nevertheless, it is real work, and I don't have another one in me. The thought of starting over at zero makes me weak.
I was talking to my wife about her serial monogamist Uncle, who changes wives more often than I change cars, and I was wondering how he could find the energy for all the work a relationship requires.
My wife pointed out that my premise was entirely wrong. He can find the energy because he doesn't contribute any effort. He finds a woman dumb or desperate enough to start a relationship with him, then when she gets sick of doing everything for him, he finds a new one. Easy peasy.