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[–] Natanox@discuss.tchncs.de 107 points 2 days ago (4 children)

"too literal" is inherently subjective. Too literal to whom? What if my friends group is also neurodivergent as fuck, does this invalidate me then because it's the new neurotypical?

I conclude that we need tests for what's usually thought off as "normies". If they know about their rhetorical precision deficits surely they can get therapy to solve that issue and integrate better into society.

[–] m4xie@lemmy.ca 34 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I've been told many times I'm too literal. They are wrong, I am appropriately literal. However, it is something people tell me.

Same! I can exaggerate and make jokes just fine, I just usually am being serious because i'm focused on the task at hand

[–] panda_abyss@lemmy.ca 23 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Enough that people tell you that you’re too literal.

But also, this isn’t an age or disagree question, it’s a does this happen question.

but it literally is "agree to disagree" tho. If they didn't want it to be, they should've used those words! 😤

[–] ugo@feddit.it 13 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Seriously. I get the impression that some people don’t like to engage with me at work because I try to be precise to the necessary degree. I work with software, so the degree of precision I need to use to express the behaviour of a system is decently high. I do a conscious effort to be only as technical as the context requires, often opting for being not technical at all when engaging people whose job is not technical.

A few days ago I was in an email chain that went something like this:

manager: we need to add asap.

me: is it for <other team’s software> so they can ? If it is, we did for that. <other team’s software> doesn’t need to check , they can just and <our team’s software> will handle it gracefully.

other team’s programmer: that’s what we do.

other team’s manager: so we do ?

other team’s programmer: yes

If that’s what passes for normalcy, I don’t understand the appeal.

Psrhaps other team's programmer has learned to just smile and nod with that particular manager?

[–] Cethin@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago

Yeah, it should present a statement, that could be interpreted literally or not, and then ask you to select the closest response to what you initially interpreted, or something like that. I guess that could encounter a lot of error with different cultures and education though.