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I have no interest in seeing stranger's genitals (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by essell@lemmy.world to c/unpopularopinion@lemmy.world

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This is not a puritanical issue. I have no problem with porn in its place in life.

I have no desire to control anyone else's body, to shame or judge anyone for sharing themselves online or elsewhere.

Even if I feel there are unanswered questions that our society has not really tackled yet with the speed of change the Internet created, I'm still broadly ambivalent about porn.

As someone with a background in studying historical social attitudes especially around gender, sex and equality we've taken a step forwards I believe, but with more to do.

But I just don't have any interest in seeing stranger's genitals. Genitals can be a lot of fun of course, I have the superpower of enjoying whatever I find in a partner's pants.

I just don't think the fun part is looking at them. When I see a lady spreading her legs in a pose of "check this out" I'm left cold. Yes. Very nice. Gonna keep scrolling.

If I am seeking out porn I'd much prefer something with dignity, make it erotic over explicit.

I think finding an unannounced vulva in my Lemmy feed is a little like an unsolicited dick pic, except it's not aimed at me.

The photos where she's spreading her labia make even less sense to me. Yes, it's a hole. I know how they work. Unless you're hiding something up there that's not the interesting part, and if you are that's not arrousing, just entertaining!

I'm working on the assumption that these things are popular just because of the prevalence. Be funny to find out that this is a normal perspective and those people are sharing their cocks and fannies for a niche audience.

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[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago

I'm not sure this is so much an opinion as a personal preference, but I get what you're saying, and it's a good post (as all the comments coming in point to it being of interest for discussion).

My personal preference is weird.

I do like seeing genitals. I have this curiosity about me that if someone offers me a look at their body, with no strings attached, no extra bullshit or hidden agendas, I'm interested. Not sexually, because nudity != sex for me. But just because the human body is cool.

I started losing what little social barriers to seeing nudity in my teens, after I began training to be a nurse's assistant. Skin is just skin, not something exciting in an of itself. It's not shameful or bad. Over two decades of doing the job, I saw not only my patients naked, but some of their family, some coworkers, and of course people outside of work.

And I still think human bodies are cool looking. A lot of variety, a nigh infinite range of features and details.

That includes genitals. I've seen them at all ages, and they're interesting.

What I don't have interest in is unsolicited nudity being weaponized, or with a rude goal. I don't mind being hit on, but if an unsolicited pussy/dick shot is what you think I will respond to, you don't know me, and I don't want to know you because you couldn't be bothered to get to know me enough to realize it would be a bad idea.