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I've lost 3 men in my life to suicide, 1 very close and very recently. What resources can I engage with to help. Literally what can I do, outside of generic advice, what's an action I can proactively take. Are suicide hotlines still a thing? Is being an operator on there possible and what qualifications are there.

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[–] wedge@multiverse.soulism.net 4 points 2 days ago

Father and uncle both committed suicide. Short answer: fix society and the US healthcare system. Longer answer: culturally men have been ostracized and marginalized in Hollywood and social media for decades and the actual practice of psychiatry is decades behind the study of depression and mental illness. Talk therapy and medications with fractional response rates are still the gold standard and neither address the underlying root causes. Standard pharmaceutical treatments in addition to having incredibly low effective rates also come with a deluge of side-effects and diminishing returns over time. Talk therapy doesn’t actually address societal, economic, or familial pressures and without the time or mental space to practice coping methods, is largely useless.

TL;DR treat men like valued parts of society and family, and in the same spirit of equality, equally divide the fiduciary and family responsibilities between all adults. The modern father and husband averages well within reason 50% of all familial contributions while still being treated as a burden on partners.