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Thank you so much. I managed to get signed up for snap yesterday and on waitlist for shelter. I am willing to try a shelter just to see if they are ok here. 2 nights ago i tried sleeping in my car. It was rough. Partly because it was a little uncomf but also i was going through it. A close friend had just rejected me because she doesnt like homeless people. So i went to a place in the country we used to go decades ago. I went there to sleep and say goodbye to her in a way. If i sleep in my car again i am getting a damn pillow first. I finally realized, hey, i can put my stuffed shark behind my neck! But then i couldnt fall back to sleep and one of the farmers came home at like 3am so i got out of there.
The queer community around here is really good, and after posting my story to enough places, peeps started reaching out asking how they could donate. I know you said to avoid motels and i will follow that advice as much as possible but this place i got last night was pretty cheap for 5 nights. I needed to feel safe while my court case plays out. I have multiple folks trying to help me find couches to surf on. And a potential lead on a longer term space.
So, for now i am safe. I think in a few days i'll make a seperate update post. I wanted to let you know how much your words have meant and helped. May the universe bless you friend. If you ever want to chat my DM's are open.
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I'll give you my "recommended" list -- for less than $200 it provides a world of comfort for a much longer time and costs less than a night or two in a hotel!
Thermal Sleeping Bag https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DBHDHVFH
2-man tent https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F14K7BGS
Cot https://www.amazon.com/Sutekus-Portable-Ultralight-Backpacking-Mountaineering/dp/B09TQWR9G2?refinements=p_36%3A-7800
Thank you again! I will follow up on these items this weekend. I still have prime for a couple months so this will be a good time to acquire stuff.
These resources are super awesome!
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Glad to read that you're doing well. A car makes all the difference in the world, so stay current on the maintenance!
And having a community behind you definitely helps. Nice to be in a hotel for 5 nights straight, but make sure you get a tent / cot / thermal sleeping bag. A cot inside a tent is a lot more comfortable than a car (unless you tear out the backrest of the backseat entirely and convert the trunk/backseat into a sleeeping space), and campsites are far cheaper than hotels. www.freecampsites.net is also a decent resource (iOverlander is another) for finding free places to camp. Some are truck stops, other is BLM land, other is dispersed camping on Forestry land (there's different "Boondocking" groups on social media, tons of resources on where and how to camp legally for free). I'll be doing that when my SSI comes through. It's actually kind of fun, I just go from campsite to campsite every few days and see the country. A car is the difference between tolerable and intolerable for a homeless person.
Sorry to hear about your friend, sad but true that most friends really aren't your friends especially when things get difficult. What will be amazing is the real friends you discover that either 1) you didn't know you had or 2) you never thought you'd make.
Sounds like you have everything handled as best as you can! Again, glad to help and feel free to ask questions. I can't say I know everything but after 13 years of being homeless (with and without a car) I do know a few tricks. Take care.