Before that, Kiedis, now 63, had a relationship with Heather Christie, who was 22 years his junior. When the pair welcomed their son, Everly Bear, in 2007, Kiedis was 44 and his partner was 21.

In the latest episode of My Therapist Ghosted Me, Williams and her co-host Joanne McNally discussed age-gap relationships, with the former I’m a Celebrity campmate saying: “Do you know who else I find really disappointing, because I really like the Red Hot Chili Peppers? Anthony Kiedis.”

Seemingly referring to his romance with Vestergaard, Williams continued: “He is like 54 or something, and he is going out with a 19-year-old. And it is like, ‘Dude, what are you talking about?’”

McNally replied: “I've seen this. I just accept now that most men, all men, are drawn to – I'm going to be very careful how I say this – significantly younger women. That's all I'm going to say. It is what it is and I don't think there's any getting away from it. We judge it but it's not going to change.”

“I would have to say that it is not all men,” Williams continued. “Because I do think it is a very specific thing.”

Addressing why younger women might decide to date older men, McNally added: “And of course, people like him [Anthony Kiedis] and rockstars like him can get away with it because no 19-year-old girl wants to be going out with some old lad who is driving a Toyota Corolla around town.

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[–] zecg@lemmy.world 30 points 3 days ago (1 children)

This is not music, it's gossip.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works -5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Y'know, gossip as a term has had a lot of different connotations. Some would argue that gossip is a way for people to keep others safe by letting them know of dangers (and dangerous people) that they otherwise wouldn't have known.

I don't see anything in the rules about music related topics being forbidden.

[–] thefloweracidic@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Thank you for keeping us safe from Anthony Kiedis

[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm Kiedis proof: I'm not in California.

[–] thefloweracidic@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I think my sarcasm was entirely missed? Or are you continuing the banter? I don't spend enough time online, I feel like a grandma.

[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago

Continuing the banter. Riffing on Red Hot Chilli Peppers' well-documented fixation on California.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

We’ve come a long way since it was normalized for grown men to rape 14 year olds. We can go further.

[–] thefloweracidic@lemmy.world 0 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

What is your further? 60 year old men dating 18 year olds is creepy, don't get me wrong, but if the 18 year old is consenting and content in the relationship (and wasn't groomed!) where is the problem? I was being snarky before but now I'm genuinely curious.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I think that it's possible for age-gap relationships to be healthy. I believe that the more experienced partner has a duty to leave the less experienced partner in as good a mental and physical shape or better after the relationship. I believe in adults having autonomy and freedom to make their own choices.

That doesn't mean I reserve judgement for the older partner in situations where it's clear they are putting their own selfish wants ahead of the younger person's well-being. I don't trust that Kiedis treats these young women with regard to their well-being based on his history of raping young teens.

So it's nuanced, as anything I try to approach in life.

I spread awareness about these kinds of topics because people like Kiedis still rarely see any jail time for the crimes that preceded these age-gap relationships.

[–] thefloweracidic@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Oh I see what you mean now, I was missing some important context and just concluded the age gap was the issue.