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I want kids and I've been wrestling with the fact that I'm getting older and the US is only getting shittier. Some people my age have kids who are in middle and even high school. Over the years, I've also been told more than a few times that I would make a good parent. I just don't know if I have the energy left to do a good job raising a kid while struggling against an increasingly rigged and broken system. I already got a bonus family member (not a kid) who is related to my spouse and lives with us. This has cramped my bachelor style significantly and clearly moved me into the "head of the family" stage of my life. If I'm gonna live a family life, I would like to mentor someone else to reach for the stars. In the US, you're the odd one out if you don't have kids. That's a selfish reason to have them, but sometimes you just want to play on "normal" difficulty like everyone else. I grew up with a good family life and involved parents and I'd like to pass that on to someone with a few modifications based on my own experiences. I'm just gonna need some universal health care, schools where the kids don't shoot each other, universal pre-k through college, $2/dozen eggs, etc. Also a 75% discount and an assurance that I won't get surprised with a 2 for 1 deal would be nice.