posting this instead of using it right now lol. making progress but its hard to get myself to sit down and do it.
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it took a lot of learning for sure. finding the electro machine wasnt the easiest but theyre around. figuring out how to do it on my face has been hard. the magnifying mirror helps a lot but i still cant get my neck effectively cause its so hard to see what im doing. i was able to refine the technique pretty effectively on my happy trail and nipples so once i figured out the mirror it wasnt too bad to start on my face. i did around 6 months of electro on my face at a professional place before i really tried it on my face myself, so at least i know what it feels like when someone is doing it correctly.
Smart to get professional before so you know what it feels like!
Im so thankful that (for now atleast) all my desires are 100% covered by insurance. Its a really privileged position to be in that i dont take for granted. But i always keep this stuff in the back of the ol brain in case some shit happens ๐
I hope my insurance covers it. I'm in the fun limbo stage where the insurance company declined to either approve or deny during the pre-approval process, so I get to just go have very expensive appointments with no idea whether they'll be covered or not. It's fine... im sure its fine.
Fuuuuck im sorry ๐ญ
I really feel bad about the privilege honestly, cause i walked into my first appt told them i want estrogen and speech therapy and electrolysis and i want it now. And i walked out with E in hand and referrals to speech and electrolysis clinics.
I want that for all of you! Fuck anyone telling anybody what they can do with their own body i hate it it makes me sick
nonononono it's fine. I'm happy for you that it was so easy! I think we should share our experiences and stories, and not feel guilty about having it better than others.
It took me about three months to get my estrogen. My doctor required an informed consent form and initial blood test, and my wife required cryopreservation. But other than that and then this with the electrylosys limbo it's been pretty smooth sailing.
What makes me more sick is insurance refusing to state whether they are going to tell me what to do with my body or not. I have other options available, but I don't yet know if those will be needed.
I should probably ask about a speech therapy referral. My biggest thing is being scared of asking, not going for the next thing immediately. I'm taking things slow, and regretting that choice every step of the way.
Aww thanks ๐ฅฐ
I wish you truly the best of luck. Dont wait too long none of us are getting any younger lol. Insurance crap does suck pretty much everywhere else, but im rooting for you and all the other girls! โค๏ธโค๏ธ
Was it too expensive at the professional place? Or did it not work well? 6 months??
the cost was the main reason i stopped yes. it was $340 for a 2 hour session and i was going once a week. i live in a high col area so its more than it would be elsewhere. i quit my job back in feb so i stopped more to stretch my savings than because i couldnt afford it. i already had the machine so just started on myself. the professional place was more effective i think cause their machine is more powerful. i could have gotten health insurance to pay for it but i didnt want to wait and all they seem to want to do is jerk trans people around. it takes like a year or two of going consistently to get the whole beard, depending on how much hair you have and how coarse it is.