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How do I Make a plan to leave a transphobic country. (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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I'm a 21 year old trans woman living in the Carribean. Due to both the the extreme homophobia where I live and just generally unsafe neighboors hoods across where I live. I don't even feel safe coming out to friends or family because not only would I be kicked out, direct violence against gay people (trans people are just considered gay they don't care enough to make a distiction) is extremly normalized i would also likly lose my job if anyone found out since my country is small enough that everyone basically knows each other.

for these reasons and others I want to permanently move to another country and continue my transistion, while doing so as secretly as possible. I've been searching on the internet for a while but after a plan I had to study temorarily in another country on scholarship while trying to get citizen ship their fell through I don't really now what to do or where to go from her. I have an Associates degree in electronics enginnering and am a licenced electrician though my current job requires neither skill but I also have adhd autism and a non visible physical disability that is short makes me constantly tired and have headaches If i dont take my meds every day. Due to my salary being small while having to constantly buy medication saving is difficult but not impossible as long as i don't have unexpected expenses. Basically I just want some advice on where should i go, about how much money do I need to save before I go, and what that general process like? Ive been searching online bust most advice is either for americans or extremely vague. If anyone can help me I woulkd be extremely greatful?

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[–] RyanDownyJr@lemmy.world 7 points 4 days ago

I have no insight on anything to do with your specific circumstances but can provide a bit of insight into leaving a country in general.

Earlier this year my wife and I moved our family to the UK from the US. Our biggest hurdle was finding employment that offered sponsorship for a visa. My employer offered to sponsor for the max term of 5 years which we happily took as after 5 years you can apply for Indefinite Leave to Remain and stay without a visa. The next hurdle was paying for the visas. 5 years all at once was about $35k IIRC. Thankfully we had been talking about wanting to move for awhile now and saved for the effort. Restarting life also came with significant expenses as you'll likely be living out of a suitcase while apartment whatnot gets everything resituated.

TLDR; find target countries, save a lot of money, find a job that's sponsors, be patient and take each day as it comes.